DD and Perry,
I understand what you are saying, the issue becomes one of acceptance of God as an omniscient being, do you accept that God is all knowing?
That he knows everything that is in your heart and mind? all that you have done, gone through and have the potential to do?
If you accept that than ALL that has happened, from Adam's very creation was accounted for by God, it was not destined or pre-ordanined ( though some can arge that point - see "Book of Life"), but God was aware of the possibilities of Adma exerting his free will and the consequences there of, as such, God can't turn his back on all his creations, that would make him a cruel and uncaring creator, which go against be an all powerful being.
A being that is all powerful, all knowing and all seeing, all present, can't be "mean, cruel, unjust" or see his creations as enemies, there is no logic to that.
Now, I am not saying THAT is the case, only God knows for sure how he views each and every one of us, but the fact that only God, through Jesus, is judge is because only "they" are qualified to judge for only "they" know all that we do, feel, think, are.