If I can give you any advice as I am now on my 3rd year of the Fade (And trust me it was hard since I was in it DEEP). You have to start by making some friends outside of the hall (or as I call them REAL friends). Once people in the hall find out that you are hanging out with worldly people they slowly shy away from you (but it's still good because you can't get DF'd for this). Plus it's good because as you get more friends outside of it, you become less dependant on the hall, and thus miss it less (at least that helped me).Then when it comes to elders trying to take you under their wing (as they did with me), you just have to be too busy for them. What worked for me was that I would sometimes actually agree to meet with (usually it would be something casual like for a family study, lunch, or service) then I would purposly cancel last minute ("Oh, I know we made plans but I'm going to have to cancel as I forgot I had already made plans with someone else") After a while I got a rep as being unreliable and since most of them hated having their time wasted, they stopped trying to invited me out for encouragment. Then you have to slowly stop entering field services time and the rest will come in line . GOOD LUCK with the fade!!!