Why do so many Xjw's not end up in some sort of trouble?

by AK - Jeff 35 Replies latest jw friends

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  LuckyNun

  it's always fun to catch up with someone from your old congregation who either will talk to you or just recently got out. that's how I learned all the juicy gossip about my so-called life.

  but there is one thing that rang true for me in Kyria's book: I really lost my moral compass and ended up making a lot of mistakes from age 17-23 because I was so naive and so brainwashed. when everything you've known gets turned upside-down and you have nobody who understands and can help you through it, it's hard to know what's really bad and what was just JW-bad. the trust issues alone are worth years of therapy. the relief a person feels after shrugging off the terrible burden of being a JW is worth it, though.

  I did end up dating a few losers and thought I didn't deserve better, and both my kids were unplanned and raised by just me after breaking up with their repective dads, but after I learned all my life lessons and got my street smarts, I did okay. I love my life, and I bet a few of the people I was told to cluck over loved their lives too and weren't miserable as people said.
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  HintOfLime

  I definately turned evil when I left. I began pursuing secondary education. I let my facial hair grow a little. But worse of all... it came out of the closet that I enjoy drawing pencil sketches of girls... sometimes without clothes!

  And my plunge off the deep end continues as I move on to... NUDES IN OIL PAINT! At this rate, I'll be a pimp or porn star within 8 months. It'll be sweet.

  - Lime
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  homeschool

  Not gonna lie...my family was VERY into the jw's and when I left I got into drugs. Moved from a lil honky dorey town in the east and went to L.A....got into cocaine pretty bad. I thank whomever's taking care of me every single day. I am now a successful business owner in the holistic field. Its not all peas and carrots....but i'M still happy where I've ended up
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  steve2

  In dubland you'd be considered an apostle of Satan. I suppose that with your "worldly education" you get paid well, too.
  If someone asked about you in your old Kingdumb Hell, they'd likely report that you're some kind of a gangsta-pimp.

  Coming from BTK, I consider this a compliment. I read somewhere once that the best answer you can give to your critics (e.g., JWs), is to live a successful life!
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  hamsterbait

  The same reason that the vast majority of human beings do not make a mess of their lives.

  Living sensibly and happily is a survivsl mechanism bred into us.

  Remember too that most people are genuinely nice, they help strangers and care about others. When you realise that the WT has demonised everything outside their La La Land you see through what is going on:

  They make the real world so scary you would rather stay in jail. (This ACTUALLY does happen to some prisoners serving very long sentences) At least you can cope with the misery and opression inside - its the uncertainty and freedom outside that is terrifying.

  Once out there you find the flowers dont stink, that the smiles are often genuine, and sharing does not turn you into a victim.

  HB
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  Lucky Calamity

  I watch tv sometimes; read a lot of books; surf the internet; drink a lot of coffee.

  I went to community college and worked part-time and was a single mom, graduated from community college with honors; just got accepted into a "public ivy league" university; and now I'm working at one of the best child development centers in the state.

  Yeah, like someone else here said, "major fail," all around, as an ex-jw, LOL!