I have finally gotten him to understand that we cannot live together and not be married, and I don't want to just be a friend after our past together it would almost be impossible. He has now told me that he has been seeking guidance from elders in kentucky. We are both hoping that his wife has moved on since she and her family have decided not to talk to him. He has told me that he is faced with the tough decision to leave his religion to be a family with me and our son or to choose his religion. He knows now that his marriage in gods eyes is permanent and the only way out is if she has not been true to the marriage but since she will not communicate with him or the rest of her family witch are also jws he can't count on knowing the truth. I told him I will give him some time to think this over and that if he wants to make this right with god that he will have to do some hard soul searching and ask for forgiveness and mean it if he chooses to be a family.
Thank you so much everyone for your kind words
Heather