LL, Sorry to hear about the death of your mother. I hope you can hold on to the good memories and forget about the JW cloud.
As for the JWs, I'm still "in" and can tell you that the JW treadmill keeps the dubs so busy and emotionally drained and confused about not mourning or being sad and wondering when the hell the big A really is coming, that they don't have the time or energy for you or for anything "normal". Some may wish to reach out to you to draw you back into the spider's web with them, but you can see through those notions. If anything, you can be pleasant to them and keep the door open for those that may be interested to find out that since leaving the bOrg, you haven't gone crazy, but are enjoying a happy, productive life. Maybe you'll find a real friend among them after all.
B the X