by BonaFide 39 Replies latest jw friends
Oh, and another thing. Stop worrying and get angry. They've had you sucked in under false pretences (you've already realized "the truth" is not what it's cracked up to be). Not only that, they've deprived you of a sex life in the best years of your life. And now you're having to face a kangaroo court over what? Grinding? It's making me angry just thinking about your case.
I just hope your new GF is going to be on the same page as you - if not now, then pretty soon.
penny
Just between you and me. I won't tell anyone.
Was the grinding good? Do you recommend?
Keep underwear on?
lisa
Thank you everyone, I feel ready to go to that meetings. Yes, I was a CO but its so much different when you are the one on the hotseat. I don't know what she told them.
I am mad too because when this girl and I were alone, and she was rubbing my neck, she offered a few more "treatments." She told me she likes cigars and I said, "How could you like smoking?" She said she like the feel of a cigar, not the smoking part. It took me awhile to realize what she meant, But I still refused. Then a few months later I get a girlfriend, and this girl tries to get me in trouble. (She is 38 by the way, raised a JW also.)
Also, my girlfriend now is starting to fade as well. She is extremely intelligent and ummmm, sexy too. But we are all long-time JW's who live with hundreds of other JW's in the same area. Our parents are Witnesses, everyone we know is a Witness.
I mean it, if it were not for the help I get on this site, I would go crazy. I like the humor on here too, it makes me feel a little less sad about wasting my life, now that I am 43 and never married.
My new girlfriend treats me so nicely, I am really working hard to show more respect for women in general, as I used to feel superior to women per the Society.
Thanks everyone.
BF
say something along the lines of, you have a bible trained conscience the same as them, you really didnt do what your accused of and your main priority has always been your spiritual goals, and that you have done your upmost to maintain a healthy relationship with jehovah god. your aware god sees all, and that you couldnt honestly come before the elders, knowing they represent god then and there, and lie. you have a new relationship and since this new relationship, the former partner has made things difficult for you. say your sad that its come to this because its actually quite stumbling for yourself, and your current partner, yet alone any other brothers and sisters who may or may not find out about this. say you've meditated on this matter in prayer, and had taken an overview on the way you acted and on the situation, studying the matter in line with gods word and the publications and you realise that perhaps your mistake was in being alone, opening yourself to this kind of situation and that you can appreciate how the society has put these things in place as a protection, the same as he put the elders as a protect, and a guide in the congregation. say you believe your innocent of any wrongdoing but you've been quite foolish.
then go on to say, no witnesses, no one else knows for sure what went on there but jehovah himself and he will be my judge.
You should of tagged that while you had the chance! LOL!
Sorry dude, but you must of "grinded" to the point of ejaculation, right? Because that's what I read into this.
Do you believe in Jehovah? If not then lie like hell... do you believe in Jehovah?.. Lie like hell anyway, because these plumbers you'll be meeting with are probably tired crap less of having sex with their 950LB wives, and are being told by the org to not look at porn, so this is the closest thing they'll hear that resembles what they used to do 20 years ago, and their britches may in fact get a rise over this. I wouldn't give them the satisfaction... believe me, they'll want details. I mean freaking details. I've been there and done that.. exact same meeting for me... we grinded... and grinded, and grinded, and they sicko elders wanted to hear all about it.
Tell them shes a crazy, jealous women, no wrath like a woman spurned... you did "wrestle" with her, but you didn't even get a boner, so you don't know what she's talking about. Tell them your very sorry that this wrestling match has brought any reproach on Gods name, since you are a faithful servant and didn't feel as you did anything wrong.
Tell them you'll be sure to never be alone with a hottie again, and then get the hell out of this damn stupid religion.
I agree with Mustang:
1) It didn't happen.
2) Why the delay??
3) It didn't happen.
4) Jealousy.
5) Quote a scripture about bearing False Witness.
6) Quote a different scripture about bearing False Witness.
7) Repeat 6.
Further, I would say a few words to the group about the "seriousness" of this accusation and then take a hard right turn into discussing the consequences of "false testimony and slander." Explain your concern that Sister Bitch has made a serious error and that you wish to save your sister by urging her to admit to her lie and retract her charges. [She wanted you to fuck her before, and now you will.]
Also remind the brothers of how Jehovah knows all and sees all and that you have CONTINUED TO EXPERIENCE HIS BLESSINGS IN YOUR LIFE. Jehovah has not withdrawn his magic spirit from you, which is further evidence of your innocence in this matter.
Conclude by mentioning how Judas hung himself after his betrayal of Christ.
I like the humor on here too,
Glad you said that
What I wanted to say earlier, after you have exposed this "raging sea of hormones", is that a smart JC would call a recess, take all "the likely suspects" out onto the KH lawn and give them a good COLD HOSEDOWN
Mustang
God, Gary, almost drove off the road on that one. Please never stop posting.
The easiest thing is to just "forget" to go. If you are not there, they cannot hound you or grill you. And they will miss out on hearing the details. You might still get disfellowshipped, but at least you will be spared having to give details that are between the two involved parties alone.
