How do you know if you're in love?

by LouBelle 42 Replies latest jw friends

  • LouBelle
    LouBelle

    I'm off to a wedding in 10. My gym bunny friend met this guy last week sunday and they are getting married on the 2nd August . . . Yes you read right!! I'm thinking she is nuts but every1 deserves a shot at happiness. Time to make jelly and ponder life.

  • LouBelle
    LouBelle

    I'm off to a wedding in 10 days. My gym bunny friend met this guy last week sunday and they are getting married on the 2nd August . . . Yes you read right!! I'm thinking she is nuts but every1 deserves a shot at happiness. Time to make jelly and ponder life.

  • FlipThis
    FlipThis

    You only know after you've been together for 20 years and still like the person :)

  • Satanus
    Satanus

    """"In my experience......ya just know.

    I mean the minute I sat down across from my husband one side of my brains said........I am gonna marry that one!.

    These are almost exactly the words that H4O later told me she said to herself upon our very first meeting ! I didn't

    have the marriage idea that fast but I too agree it just happens... you'll know when it happens.The trick is that it

    must be mutual... you may be attracted to them but not necessarily they to you ! I think it's the eyes ,there's a

    mutual sparkle and fixation that you have to experience to understand.

    I don't think it needs to be complicated at all... either it works or it doesn't

    If you care about each other everything simply falls in place !
    Falling in love is a strong instinctive attraction to the person of the other sex. In case it’s mutual and both lovers will work at their relationships one day that feeling can grow into love. Falling in love is crazy, it very physical, it’s when knees are getting weak and temperature rises, love is calm, comfortable and mental


    You have to do nothing to fall in love and often there’s either nothing you can do to stop falling in love. It’s very illogical: you suffer from splashes of emotions, doubts, can’t fully control yourself and it’s all because of a person you usually almost don’t know. When we fall in love nature shows all it’s power on us""""

    Sounds like one of those successful basic animal evolutionary processes. Think about some of the 'lower' animals that mate for life. Same thing, i bet. Not that there's anything wrong w it;)

    S

  • Mickey mouse
    Mickey mouse

    As the Oracle said to Neo in the Matrix...

    I'm going to let you in on a little secret. Being The One is just like being in love. No one can tell you you're in love, you just know it. Through and through. Balls to bones.

  • Bumble Bee
    Bumble Bee

    I can't take credit for this, but thought it fit with this topic

    Why do we close our eyes when we sleep? When we cry?
    When we imagine? When we kiss?
    This is because the most beautiful things in
    the world are unseen.
    We are all a little weird and life's a little weird
    and when we find someone whose weirdness
    is compatible with ours,
    we join up with them and fall in
    mutual weirdness and call it love.
    There are things that we never want to let go of,
    people we never want to leave behind,
    but keep in mind that letting go isn't the end of the world,
    it's the beginning of a new life.
    Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt,
    those who have searched and those who have tried.
    For only they can appreciate the importance of the people
    who have touched their lives.
    A great love? It's when you shed tears and still
    you care for him,
    it's when he ignores you and still you long for him.
    It's when he begins to love another and yet you still smile
    and say I'm happy for you.
    If love fails, set yourself free,
    let your heart spread its wings and fly again.
    Remember you may find love and lose it, but when love dies,
    you never have to die with it.
    The strongest people are not those who always win
    but those who stand back up when they fall.
    Somehow along the course of life,
    you learn about yourself and realize
    there should never be regrets,
    only a lifelong appreciation of the choices you've made.
    A true friend understands when you say, I forgot,
    waits forever when you say, just a minute,
    stays when you say leave me alone,
    opens the door even before you knock and says can I come in?
    Loving is not how you forget but how you forgive,
    not how you listen but how you understand,
    not what you see but how you feel,
    and not how you let go but how you hold on.
    It's more dangerous to weep inwardly rather than outwardly.
    Outward tears can be wiped away while secret tears scar forever.
    In love, very rarely do we win
    but when love is true, even if you lose,
    you still win just for having the tingle of loving someone
    more than you love yourself.
    There comes a time when we have to stop loving someone
    not because that person has stopped loving us
    but because we have found out
    that they'd be happier if we let go.
    It's best to wait for the one you want than settle for one that's available.
    Best to wait for the one you love than one who is around.
    Best to wait for the right one
    because life is too short to waste on just someone.
    Sometimes the one you love turns out to be the one who hurts you the most,
    and sometimes the friend who takes you into his arms
    and cries when you cry
    turns out to be the love you never knew you wanted.
    If you really love someone never let go,
    don't believe that letting go means that you love best,
    instead fight for your love,
    that's what true love is.
    Laugh to your heart's content; you cannot go
    through life without it.

  • Layla33
    Layla33

    I really believe you know when you are in love. It's hard to qualify it but you know. Having experienced love a few times, I can tell you it was one of the most wonderful complete feelings I have ever had.

    When you wake up in the morning that person is one of the first things on your mind. You are willing to put their needs before yours, their smiles are your joy. Being in their company completes you. And the intimacy that you share is something that soothes your soul. Your entire vision of the world grows because you have this person in your life that you learn from.

    I still remember when I was dating my ex husband and about three months into it, I woke up one morning and I realized I was desperately and completely in love with that man. I still remember the first time he told me he loved me, when he asked me to be his wife. I still remember the first time my first love (not my ex) kissed me. I felt like the sky just opened up and glowed on my face.

    When you are in love, you know it, no questions, no doubts, that's just how powerful it is. One of the greatest gifts of humanity - love.

  • TinyDancer124
    TinyDancer124

    I couldn't put it into words. You just know.

  • AGuest
    AGuest

    What it looks like everyone's trying to say, dear Lou, is that if you have to ask... you're probably NOT in love (and maybe someone's already said exactly that, too!) My guess is that when you finally do finally fall in love (and you will, one day, regardless of whether you do anything about it or not), nobody'll be able to tell you that you're not... and some will even tell you that you are before you tell them... 'cause they'll see and hear it "in" you.

    My advice? "Wait for it." It's well worth it.

    Peace to you!

    SA, a slave of Christ

  • VoidEater
    VoidEater

    "What is looooooooooooove anyway?"

    What kind of love does one seek?

    Is it the love of desire? The love of possession? Of attachment? Of contentment? Support?

    Is it a pushing towards, a drawing into, a flight, a grounding?

    "And I don't want to be your other half, I believe that 1 and 1 make 2"

    NOT THE DOCTOR
    Alannis Morrisette

    I don't want to be the filler if the void is solely yours
    I don't want to be your glass of single malt whiskey
    Hidden in the bottom drawer
    I don't want to be a bandage if the wound is not mine
    Lend me some fresh air
    I don't want to be adored for what I merely represent to you
    I don't want to be your babysitter
    You're a very big boy now
    I don't want to be your mother
    I didn't carry you in my womb for nine months
    Show me the back door

    Visiting hours are 9 to 5 and if I show up at 10 past 6
    Well I already know that you'd find some way to sneak me in and oh
    Mind the empty bottle with the holes along the bottom
    You see it's too much to ask for and I am not the doctor

    I don't want to be the sweeper of the egg shells that you walk upon
    And I don't want to be your other half, I believe that 1 and 1 make 2
    I don't want to be your food or the light from the fridge on your face
    At midnight, hey
    What are you hungry for
    I don't want to be the glue that holds your pieces together
    I don't want to be your idol
    See this pedestal is high and I'm afraid of heights
    I don't want to be lived through
    A vicarious occasion
    Please open the window

    Visiting hours are 9 to 5 and if I show up at 10 past 6
    Well I already know that you'd find some way to sneak me in and oh
    Mind the empty bottle with the holes along the bottom
    You see it's too much to ask for and I am not the doctor

    I don't want to live on someday when my motto is last week
    I don't want to be responsible for your fractured heart
    And it's wounded beat
    I don't want to be a substitute for the smoke you've been inhaling
    What do you thank me
    What do you thank me for

    Visiting hours are 9 to 5 and if I show up at 10 past 6
    Well I already know that you'd find some way to sneak me in and oh
    Mind the empty bottle with the holes along the bottom
    You see it's too much to ask for and I am not the doctor

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