Pass. Pro.:
Job 1 - resign as an elder. That is going to be hard as I have no axe to grind with anyone or anything. I'm going to have to choose some reason to tell the elders I'm stepping down. Believe me, this is going to come out of the blue for them.
That's the spot I'm at, too. My circumstances are greatly different from yours, so I'm sure our choices will be greatly different. In my case, I've come to see that I don't need to be in a hurry. Armageddon ain't coming tomorrow to kill me if I'm still pretending to believe the JWs and be an elder. It is a waste of time, though. I don't do much FS anymore, and the meetings cut into time better spent watching TV and drinking beer. A few times, I've taken along some JWD, jwfacts, etc. printouts to give me something interesting to consider during the mtgs. I'm watching the pedophile cases and will likely make that an issue for my stepping down. The NBC story last fall was the final straw that sent me to silentlambs.org and here to JWD.
I'm taking my time to figure out what I want to be and do after-JW. Preparing myself materially and emotionally for the future has helped me to focus on goals and ignore the short-term trash in the meantime. It does cause pain and frustration, but I will have to expect pain and frustration accompany life outside the bOrg anyway.
A few times I've taken something to help me get a good nights sleep. Sometimes that really helps to refocus on my objectives.
I hope some of this helps. I know it helps me to type this and remind myself that..... hey, it's late here, I better go to bed so I can have a good day of work tomorrow.
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