Simon - I agreed and felt the same as you for quite a long time.
It wasn't until I picked up physics books again that I started to view things differently which is why I suggested you read up on up to date quantum physics.
It's all to do with size and perspective.....all of it and the fact that there is no such thing as time.......(not wishing to sound like a DR Who fanatic here, but there really isn't, at least not in the way we view it).
Nothing is solid, and everything is porous, depending on your size of course. The smaller you are, the more you can travel 'through' things and if you have no 'physical body', ie electricity, you can travel along and through things.
Therefore, you see your fridge as a solid, but if you were a tachyon, you could travel through it.
I'm trying to put this really simply though it is not, and I'm not being patronising here either, just trying to help a doubting mind see or 'feel' what it is that physics has begun to reveal.
But, don't listen to mystics etc, just read up you quantum physics.
Remember the question , words to the effect, that if a tree fell in a forest and nobody saw it, did a tree really fall?
Well, if observance is what makes reality, and if this scientific theory is true, that particles behave differently when they are observed, it means that we have to be 'observing' even before we are conceived or born, and even after we die, otherwise our reality never exists. This means or at least leads to the theory that we never stop, and even never begin observing and therefore never cease to or begin to exist. Therefore the scientific theory, not mystic whoo hoo theory, but scientific theory, that we never die and never cease to exist.
REmembering quantum physics again, and size being all important, we are but something of an energy, trapped within a bottle. When the bottle breaks then the 'spirit' is free.
Ever see death? I'm sad to say I have. There's a certain something that escapes from the body, and the body is an empty shell. The spirit is free.
Sound crazy? Maybe it is?
All I know or feel, is that as tragic and heartbreaking as death is, it is not the end ..... and neither is it a beginning, but just a continuation.
There really is nothing to fear in this life, as there is nothing that can destroy us.....whatever we really are.
I can understand someone mocking this, but there are answers to everything, it's just knowing where to look and science is unlocking secrets that shake the current believed 'physical laws'.
Are you sure you know what gravity really is?
Perhaps you should research the latest findings.
Nothing is at it seems.