I have a question for JW's. I have a problem with a JW . Its been going on for a year now. It started with her kissing my husband at work. that went to her asking him to come to her home and fix her car. then it went to him being there at her home 2 nights a week for approx 6 weeks while we were going through things at home.
I am a sick person with a rare disease and was bed ridden for 2 years. this affair all started January 06 with the kiss at the same time i was recovering from my illness. to make things straight my husband is responsible for his actions. I do not defend what he did. Also he was 40 then and me 39.
To finish now... On march 27, 07 he went to her house after work to pick up a cordless drill he had loaned her. They also worked together, sorry left that out. She was tired of him just coming over and not doing anything sexual she voiced. Her son was not home that night and she threw herself on him.(my husband has been faithful up to this moment for 21 years, i know for a fact!) all came from his words that he had to confess to me, or i would leave him because he was not being honest and i could not rebuild a marriage with him unless we had honesty, She initiated a kiss which turned passionate very quick. They ended up having unprotected sex and he was so embarrassed about what he did that he didn't come home. I thought he had a wreck as i trusted him with all my being. I was never so scared in my life.
now to back trace this women who is a JW, she has offered her self to my husband for the last 7 years. He had a weak moment, actually a few of them. So on march 27, 07 he committed adultery. then the next night he went back again and this time his conscious would not allow him to become "active" to have sex. She started stripping him when he went in the door and started oral sex on him but he could not respond. then for the two weeks later they had many many fights at work where he said it was over and was ashamed as to what he did, she would demand that it would not be over!
The Monday after easter he went to her house again, but this time to make sure she understood it was over as we were going on a vacation for a few days to be alone and he had hopes to renew our marriage. She again starts kissing him and begging him not to leave her, he said he went ahead and allowed it and needs a physiologist to tell him why he didn't just leave. she then again attempts oral sex on him, again he had no sexual response. then he left. she continued her behavior at work toward him till Aug. 13th when he left the company after 18 years.. also each time he was with her she would ask about his wife. but apparently JW thinks its OK to commit adultery??????
I actually worked with this women before i got sick and we were friends with her xhusband. its been over a year later and she is still calling him. she told me that she knows in her heart that someday he will come back to her. first she never had him but for about 5 minutes and that was in sin in my religion. I and my husband are missionary Baptist. he has confessed every detail to me and our God and asked for forgiveness from God. We have the best relationship we have ever had in our whole life together. but she continues to call him, send messages and slander me. ME? I have done nothing. they sinned!
Now my question is ...........in the JW bible is it OK to commit adultery? because the very next day she was passing out her pamphlets at work as if nothing ever happened and has continued to be a JW, yet at the same time messing with my marriage hoping my husband will come back to her. This women is effecting my children. I know how my husband feels about what he did, he understand how i felt and we have excepted that a mistake happened and have moved on but children are different until they have a family of their own they won't understand. so please explain to me how JWs with all your rules would do this to my family? How could someone who is a JW do what she has and what she continues to do? and i would like to say that my my family is not the first she has hurt. she likes married men and had several affair's before my husband from men at work.
someone please explain this behavior of this JW to me, please.
Thank you,
Hurt