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I agree with what the others said about getting a restraining order, especially if this evil woman keeps calling your home. Take note of the date & time of such calls, and you'll have an airtight case.
Also, when writing the local congregation of Jehovah's Witnesses, you will want to address it to the "presiding overseer" to make sure it gets into the right hands.
Best wishes to you.
To All,
The last few days I've been struggling with if I tell her church what she has did it will get her kicked out. I am a Christian, maybe not a JW but I believe in all. To me removing her from a church would make me feel like I sinned. That would be the ONLY wrong thing I have done in this whole "MESS". I know she created it but am I the one that should punish her? I know if she truly believed in sin and God she would go and find another church to take her in. But still I'm not sure I should be the one to get her in trouble with her church. My church would not kick me out. My preacher would talk to me and explain that what i have done is wrong and that i should apologize to the women and her family I wronged and tell the truth. Instead of lies to try and break up the family as well as hurt them more. JW's do things different than we do. I'm missionary Baptist. I believe once saved always saved and just ask forgiveness from God and he will grant it. I'm not saying i can go out and premeditate a sin like this women did for 7 years before they did sin.(8 now) She made up lies about her car being broken to get him to her house, borrowed a drill and said he had to come to her home to get it, things like that to me were premeditation to get him in the place where it could happen. Again I AM NOT TAKING UP FOR WHAT MY HUSBAND DID. but if he had not been at her house things may have been different. She even hit on him when she was married. (before, during and after).
I would like to also clear up that i said no one else in her family was JW's. I was wrong. My husband said her mother and one of her many brother's were also JW's. He brother knows her side of things, but her mother doesn't. Am I the one to tell them by letting the church know? Even after all the things she has said about me since I found out. I have defended myself till i can't defend anymore. I almost committed suicide twice over all of this. But God got me through it and its been a very long road for me this last year. I pulled out every stop i could find to make my husband understand what he did to me. When he finally understood how i felt and stopped thinking about how he felt for what he did in the eye's of God then is when he told me everything in detail and that was when i could truly believe him and trust again. He's my husband and we have been together since we were 14 and him 15 years old and married when i was 18. He is all I know. He is my best friend. He is my everything. I could not just throw all that away so i fought so hard that at times i just hit rock bottom and wanted to end it so bad. God pulled me through. I'm sure even tho she has led this double life she is still his child. The bible says not to make his children stray from him. Would this be the same thing as me telling what she did to her church? I'm sorry i don't know about your religion and belief's. All I want is for her to understand what she did was wrong and what she continues to do is wrong. He has told her many, many times he used her and doesn't want anything else to do with her. (I know that is bad in him) but i also told her the same thing and i get in reply from her "he will be with me when your daughter graduate's. he's only there for the kids." she just doesn't get it. is it possible in your religion for the head of the church (pastor) to just talk to her and maybe she will understand? in my heart i know that she is obsessed with my husband and i doubt talking to her by anyone will help but I'm not sure either that kicking her out of church is the answer, away from God , is the right thing to do. or maybe it is, maybe it would open her eyes, maybe it would take something that big to make her wake up?
as far as the restraining order. I'm not going to go that far because as long as she calls my husband then I know she is still after him. i can trust him enough to know he won't answer or if he does without knowing its her he will not talk to her, an if he does it will only be the same old, same old, "leave us alone". She won't call me anymore now that he has told me details of their "encounter" . I trust my husband now, i have to in order to keep our marriage the way it is now. The man I married no longer exist. I now have a loving husband who kisses me every time i walk by him and says to me he loves me at least 20 times a day. He holds me when we sleep and wont let go. I really believe he loves me more now than he ever has, not to take away from what we had before she came in the picture. just that he saw how hard i fought for him and that made him understand how much i loved and love him. I won't let anyone take away my husband and my best friend. I would be lost and then it would be possible i would commit suicide. God and my believe that if i did then i would never go to heaven. I have people there waiting on me that i would never be with again and i would burn in hell. So that is what has stopped me all these times. but somehow i have to stop her. she has destroyed so many families before she knew my husband, and while she knew him and I'm afraid once she understands its over with him she will find another married man and destroy more lives. I hate to say this but in factory's women who do what she does is called a "factory ho". how can she live your religion and do the things she has done for 8 years now that i know of. plus she has a son. i believe he is like 14.(an severl more all with different men) what kind of example is she sitting for him and what would it do to him if she was kicked out of the church? I don't want to hurt a child. even tho she has tore mine up and messed up their lives forever. I'm just not like her. would i be bowing down to her level if i sent this letter to the church? I'm so so confused!!! All I know is that as long as she calls then i know she still thinks she has a chance with my husband. and who knows what she will do next. The lies she has told on me i can handle but children are different and if they get back to them she could cause my children to stray from me. She has already caused them to act out in ways that are sin. Both has been baptized and in my religion once baptized and except God/Jesus then your a child of God forever and if you sin then you just ask for forgiveness. Soon as we got home from being on the road trucking my son straightened up, but my daughter is so angry. She was OK till this women started things up again. I have to do something to stop her but what is the right thing to do? a restraining is just a piece of paper, it won't make her change her mind about going after my husband because if the consequences from God are not enough then what would a piece of paper do? Please , if you can, give me so more advice. I'm more confused than ever now. I'm struggling so bad. My church would say ignore and pray for her. I have and its not working!!!
please help
hurt
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My church would say ignore and pray for her. I have and its not working!!!
You might want a back up plan then.
I am not sure what juridiction you are in but here in the UK restraining orders can and do work.
Have you approached the local elders his church ?
Regards
David
What you need to do is expose what she is doing to the congregation she attends. Protect your family woman! Expose her "JW" ass for her shameless actions!
It is not allowed by the j.w.'s,, she is definitely leading a double life. She sounds like quite a winner. You probably aren't going to like this, but I think that you and your husband might benefit from marriage counseling. I'm glad that things are going good for you right now, but there has to be an underlying reason why he put himslf in a compromising position several times. I would have a hard time believing my husband that he was truely sorry if he went back over there for any reason. Even if whatever his weaknesses were are better now, it can't hurt to get even closer. I wish you both the best.
If you too weak to confront that bitch and slap her down then you don't deserve your husband. Where's your fight for christ's sake? Grow some balls. Turn her in to the church. That'll fix her wagon. Take her family from her like she took yours from you.
Hurt By JW,
Come on -- she's the one who put herself at risk with her slimy disgusting behavior. She knew full well what the consequences could be.
So what if the JW brand of discipline seems harsh? It's what she signed up for when she got baptized.
Do what's right, tell the truth to her presiding overseer, and let the chips fall where they may.
I've never cheated, but I almost got myself in a situation similiar bacause of a smile.
when she wrote me letters, I handed them to my wife, and then the elders
do people like this really exist on this earth,,,or is this a joke?
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