For the past few months I have found myself biting my tongue at what I have been observing with some participants on JWD. Please keep in mind I have been around since Noah on these boards (circa 1997) and have watched several trends and people come and go over the years.
I am not seeking approval, support or anything other than expressing a personal observation.
Every once in a while an egoist appears on the ex-jw boards. More often than not a former elder who feels they continue to hold some sort of special wisdom that they must proclaim to the masses. Some even going so far as to start threads encouraging people to come to them for advice. More often than not, these individuals are untrained and at best have read a few self help books or are watching Oprah and Dr Phil religiously. Some are motivated sincerely to help, others are just out to feed their own ego.
Regardless it is extremely dangerous to start dishing out advice, especially on emotional/psychological matters without formal training. Most professionals would refuse to give out some of the advice some have offered and for good reason.
I guess I just want to remind everyone that this is the Internet. This is not the best place for psychological or even relationship advice. Most here are just doing what we can to survive and eek out some happiness in this life. These boards can be great places to vent with people who have similar backgrounds.
Be careful of thsoe who portend or pretend to be all knowing sages. I hate to quote scripture but "Do not put trust in every inspried expression" does apply well.
If someone is giving advice regularly on the Internet, they are doing so knowing full well they cannot be held accountable for it. You have to live with the consequences. So despite the smooth words and good intentions, please be judicious in who, what and how you proceed on receiving advice from anyone on the net including the well intentioned here.