I became very disollusioned with the truth over a period of time after my son was chased down and DA'd 6 months after leaving the congregation for being gay. This broke my heart as it meant his grandparents and all the friends he grew up with were stopped from speaking to him, just when he needed them most.
I then started to investigate the truth to see if Jesus would really choose them in 1919 as they claim (why didn't I think to do this before???) Of course it was a terrible shock to realise that they were complete frauds, especially after 21 years of being a zealous witness, bringing up 4 boys in the "truth" etc.
So I went to a local fellowship group, just out of curiosity more than anything. One member of the group mentioned I was there to a friend of hers. The friend then told the pioneer sister who called on her. The pioneer sister then told the PO of my congregation. The PO then went to my parents to ask if it was true. My parents then asked me and reported back to the PO who finally gave me a call to ask me the "do you still want to be known..." question. I fobbed him off with the " I was just curious" reason, (which was actually true!)
I was furious. All these people lived in the same village as me, they all had my phone number yet the gossip went all round the houses before I was asked. I wasn't gonna put up with having to look over my shoulder to see if I was being watched every time I made a move. I wasn't prepard to have sisters or elders make a fuss if they saw me going into a church or a christian bookshop or having a birthday. They could get lost. So I wrote a letter so I could take control of the situation. I left on my terms, in my own time, on my say so. The only thing that concerned me is if my parents shunned me. After I spoke to them I was convinced that they would NEVER shun me regardless of what the Society said. So I handed my letter in and have never looked back.