A bit of backgound info................my husband and I, after being in the org for 20 , high pressured years, faded about 4 years ago and after the usual feelings , anger, sadness, joy etc we had quite a upsetting change of circumstances. Recently my husband told me he didnt think he was in love with me anymore, decided he had missed out on what he really wanted to do with his life. He wants to get a high powered motor bike, go off and get new friends ( I have no objection but hes blamed me cos he hasnt got any) and now has got a big tatoo on his arm from the shoulder to the elbow.
Ive never been really keen on tatoos but sort of gave my inital reluctant support and actually went with him when he had it done!!
Now hes booked in to have the other arm done. Im really upset. No disscussion of the money being spend (£ 200 each tatto ) no consideration that I think it will look horrible.
He says its a personal thing he wants to do for himself and that it has nothing to do with me.
I told him I think hes going through a mid life crisis, which he obviously disagrees with.
So the question is am I being unreasonable here or is he?? Would you have done something as permenant as a tatoo if your partner disagreed with it or is it up to ultimately up to you.