I must say I liked what Robert Anton Wilson said about reality tunnels: that each has their own reality tunnel and if you live your own it will be a heaven on Earth but if you're always living someone elses it will be a hell on Earth. (whether its a person or a religion)
Too many of us get conditioned from childhood to look into someone elses reality and not to look through our own enough to work out what it is that we want and see that is achievable.
Too many of us put our chips on someone elses reality tunnel and lose our investments in emotionally damaging ways. Fear and guilt are excellent ways to enslave us to sets of life rules others never even think of using. No wonder some of us lose in life and keep losing by employing the same sets of rules! It sounds emotionally detached to speak this way but maybe its closer to how things are.