Ok I will try and make this story short because its not my intent to go on a huge MIL bashing spree.
September of 2004 I meet my now husband. While we were dating he told me that he wanted nothing to do with his family because they were JW's and he was disfellowshipped because of them and his now ex-fiancee. My husband had alot of hate inside of him because of them and I knew it wasnt healthy. Because of this I encouraged him to at least try again one more time. After the fiasco with his family during our wedding I was all for ignoring them along with my husband. Well couple of months after we married is when we moved. We didnt really want his family's help in moving but we needed it. So while I was at work his parents came over and helped him move most of our stuff. While they were helping apparently my MIL went through our things. One of the things she found was some D&D books of my husbands. We both like to play and see nothing wrong with it. Well a couple of weeks after we moved in my MIL calls several times in one day asking if she could speak to her son about something important. She was very rude to me on the phone (she always has been but this time it was worse). These calls come the day after my SIL telling me that my MIL is upset because her mother might be dieing. I thought that my MIL calling might be about that so I called my SIL and asked her if she knew anything. She didnt and offered to call my MIL. Five minutes later my MIL calls and starts screaming at me over the phone as to how horrible she thinks I am, that I am manipulating her daughter (because I had a question?) and that I have lead her son down the path of darkness. She then asks what my religion really is (I never told her before this, didnt think it was her business). I tell her and she begins to tell me that I am condeming myself and my children and her son to hell(I thought they didnt believe in hell). She screams at me for 20 minutes and then states that she does not want to be a part of our lives till we learn the truth and walk in the light again. Then she tells me to have my husband call her as soon as he gets home. (He was at the store during this getting things like milk and diapers.)
My husband comes home to find me in tears and proceeds to call his mother. She then screams at him calling him worthless (not the first time) for marrying me and then tells him the last thing she told me about not being in our lives. My husband yells back sticking up for me, tells her off and says great we didnt want you anyways and hangs up. Then comes the phone call two days later from my FIL. He tells my husband that we are devil worshippers and that WE need to apologize to MIL. Since all this happened we have had no contact with them. Any of them, because after this several months later my husbands aunt who he has not seen in years comes to visit from Germany. We went over to the IL house to say hi to her and then left. After that his aunt tells us in email that she and his relatives in Germany want nothing to do with us unless we apologize to MIL. Well a year goes by and we move out of town several miles away. We told no one from his family keeping with the they dont want us in their lives and we dont want them thing.
In August I gave birth to our daughter. We kept the pregnancy and birth a secret from his family because we did not want them involved for several reasons, one being the fiasco my IL's pulled when our son was born. So here it is Yule/Christmas is upon us and I am wondering if we are doing the right thing by keeping them out of our lives.
LH