JH,
Just got home from work....almost two in the morning....had to respond to your post.
Your "story" is our story, bro. Tweak any one of us here or there and you have it. You are amoung friends. My forty plus years were a waste: stuffing feed in the arse of a proverbial dead horse. Pure waste: worse for my kids and wife.
We are raising my wife's great nephew: I watch his excitement over birthdays and holidays and grieve over what my kids missed. The dis-advantage of being with out education due to following the WT's guidelines...the whole thing....alll of it just cosmically sucks.
Yet, no matter what, no matter how late, no matter the cost THIS.....this path of truth and light we have found as a way out of the insanity of the WT...THIS is better: so much so that with all the regret and pain you and I have discussed it is still worth it.
No...the pain...the harsh reality of loss will not just disapear, BUT, is will grow smaller....never disapear, not this side of Judgement, anyway, but it gets less and less as we fill that hole up with new experiences and relationships. Also, with your clarity of vision, you will assist your children. And, you may, still, assist your wife....life is funny that way....
So, late at night here in the US....thinking of you and wishing you well. Your post was great. I will begin holding your name up in prayer during my bedtime prayers. I keep several here in my prayers....I have been thinking of OOMPA a lot and several others.....I will be specific with you: asking our Lord's mercy on you: for strength, patience, and peace...so hard to find.
Till later,
With you in this Struggle,
In Christ by a shared History and commonn concerns,
V PS: KEEP POSTING!!