I Did Not Expect This In My Inbox This Morning.

by reneeisorym 40 Replies latest members private

  • reneeisorym
    reneeisorym

    Backgroud: I am a 5th generation JW. My dad was always and elder and my mom pioneered when her health allowed. I DAed in Jan 06 and didn't hear from either of them in a year. Then my mom talked to me just enough to say hurtful things that left me in tears. May 07 my mom left my dad. Then my mom got disfellowshipped for smoking. During this time she was talking to me and even visited twice. Then she went back about a month ago to my dad. She decided to go to the meetings and quit talking to me again. Well last week she called to say that she was unhappy and wished she hadn't gone back. So this morning I got this e-mail from her:

    I told your dad that I didn’t want to have to choose between you and him. That I think we have the choice to make in our lives and we have to live with the choices we make. I told him that I wont to be intitled to make decisions in my life that I want to do and that my life is not centered around just him. He told me that he feels that I slipping away from him and his religion. I told him I wanted to go out with my friends and that I feel so relived that I am not a JW any longer. Tonight I’m going to tell him that I will be with you at Thanksgiving and Christmas. And that if he wants me to move out I will BUT this is what I will be doing.

  • REBORNAGAIN
    REBORNAGAIN

    WOW...she saw the light! Good for her. I'm happy for you too! *hugs*

    LINDA

  • purplesofa
    purplesofa

    i can only imagine how torn your mom has been until she made this decision......brave and couragious person

    have a happy holiday season

    purps

  • AWAKE&WATCHING
    AWAKE&WATCHING

    That's great,...right?

  • ex-nj-jw
    ex-nj-jw

    Renee,

    Just take it one day at a time. I would hate for her to come in and out of your life like she has done in the past because it feels good while she's there then hurts all over again when she decides that she can't be without the Jdubs.

    Enjoy the time you have with her, but keep your guard up as not to leave yourself open for potential hurt feelings.

    Just my two pennies!

    nj

  • Bumble Bee
    Bumble Bee
    That's great,...right?

    That was my thought too A&W.

    Renee, you're mom has flip flopped back and forth so many times, I'd just exercise some caution in how much you let her back into your life at this time.

    BB

  • AK - Jeff
    AK - Jeff

    Wow! Can't imagine a better email to read with your coffee. Keep us up to date. Things are changing fast for her. Maybe Dad will follow.

    Jeff

  • Open mind
    Open mind

    So much painful, unnecessary drama over man-made rules.

    Glad to hear your Mom's waking up a little.

    Thanks for sharing.

    Open Mind

  • FlyingHighNow
    FlyingHighNow

    Wow. Congratulations. Her mothering instincts over rode the brainwash.

  • BizzyBee
    BizzyBee

    Caution.

    She seems to be making decisions based upon what the people around her want her to do. Until she really opens her eyes to the TRUTH about the 'Truth,' your relationship with her will continue to yo-yo.

    Yo.

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