by reneeisorym 40 Replies latest members private
Before a person takes a bold step in life, they must make a declaration of their intention (to themselves or to another key person in their life). Your mom has made such a declaration, so that's a great first step.
Now you'll see if she stays focused and single-minded in that determination. As noted before, she's gone back and forth a few times. If she had acknowledged that in her letter I'd feel closer to 100% that she'll really mean it this time. Maybe she does though!
Sounds like you mom is a smart cookie.
I'm so happy for you and her, too. This religion is like a crazy roller coaster ride, isn't it?!
I am being careful -- I think it will take me a long time before I would get too excited because I'm afraid she'll flip flop again.
I just got this -- This is a big deal. She has not admitted this in the past:
Weight has been lifted off my shoulders. JW’s has not been in my heart for a long time I just had to omit it to myself. I believe the Bible.
This typical situation with families breaking up over religious beliefs is / and not just JWS,
becoming quit a social problem in modern society.
That being said, an escape from a cult shouldn't mean that one has to enter other en-dangerous practices which
many ex-jws deem worldly like smoking , drinking , old religious practices like Christmas, Thanks giving , Halloween or whatever.
Jumping from one deceit for the sake of another will only lead to destroy character and personal virtue.
Taking a good look at the direction your about to walk to is important to you and your mother ..... take care
en-dangerous practices which many ex-jws deem worldly like smoking , drinking , old religious practices like Christmas, Thanks giving
I'll try to remember not to choke on the turkey.
I'll try to remember not to choke on the turkey.
hehe
enjoy that cranberry sauce and pumpkin pie too......... yum yum!
purps
renee,
I am glad for you! Just be careful of your emotions, as your mother has had yo-yoing issues in the past.
I hope that you can have great holidays together!
JK
renee... i hope beyond hope it sticks this time... its not fair to put you through this emotional roller coaster...
if so, good for you about your mom...
Snakes ()
PS...I hope my mom sticks by me when I tell her I am not going back... dont know when that will be....
Renee,
Sounds like your mom's true feelings are coming out. How old is your mom? I have a grown child who has been dfd for many years. It really is torture for a mother. I am sure it is for fathers sometimes too, but I think a mother is usually much more affected. (I don't know why the computer is writing like this, please excuse my ignorance.) It tends to build inside of you until it becomes intolerable. I am sure it helped me to break away from the cultish control of the wbts.
We now have a normal relationship with our grown child and his family. We have to keep it on the sly though, as we are not officially out. I hope your father wakes up and sees the torment your mother feels. It could be his wake-up call too.
Good luck to you and you family. And enjoy the holidays!
Sincerely, choosing Life
