This is really helpful. Certainly a cross section of opinions. I am the Grandmother of two boys 5+7. My daughter-in-law cut the boys hair in this style on the last day of school for a Summer Fun look. I have the children a few times a week to help out, plus I just want them to visit and play with. We have a great time mostly at home, in the yard, play pool and such. Occationally we go out in public for a little shopping or fast food so at those times I like the boys to have on clean cloths and be well behaved and CUTE----you know, show off my adorable grandsons.
I mentioned that I did not like the haircuts and that if we go out could they please have on a hat. The DIL took offense and decided to argue with my son over me and my 'mean grandma' ways. My son stepped out of the issue and would not take sides, OK, fine but he did tell me he does not like the hair either. As was suggested I decided to choose my battles and went along thinking by the time school starts the hair would be grown out and back to 'normal' ......not so. Apparently the school is liberal and will not outlaw the style.
I should explain also that I am XJW, my son DF, daughter-in-law never a JW. I suppose my JW background has something to do with idea of what is acceptable. But the bottom line is I just think the style is very low class, ugly, 'white trash' looking.
I do wonder if little boys even understand the difference in a Superhero look or a street gang look. That is where the parenting comes in. Is is possible to teach what is acceptable in a moderate way. Not going to the extreme in any direction as in, 'we can play dress up like superheros but when we go out in the Real World we dress in a way that all people recognize as OK.
It seems the families, in laws and outlaws are taking up sides, for and against and I'm stuck, Should I take a stand for my opinion or just let it go. It has been over 3 months now and I see no end in sight.