My main regret? I'm still a virgin. (page 6)

BFD

Are you kidding?
Half my hall and more than half of my family thinks I'm secretly gay, the miserable shites. In the truth or out, I have no interest in men. But try to convince rabidly stupid people of something's non existence and you might as well just give up and die.
How could I be gay? I don't even dress well. Sheesh.
Oh my God- was that even necessary? All gay men must be good dressers! That's hate speech!
..Although I must say i am a amazing dresser. Like nobody can throw a combination of a snazzy blazer and the right tie together like I can.
BFD, I'll come help you dress. Or undress. Either one, buddy.

saywhat,

Very flattering and I'd take you up but I just don't think it's right to hook up on a "regretable virgin" thread. Timing is everything! lol

BFD

nvrgnbk

Very flattering and I'd take you up but I just don't think it's right to hook up on a "regretable virgin" thread. Timing is everything! lol
BFD

LMFHeteroAO! You tell him, BFD!

Not having sex is about the same as not learning to drive. It does not define you as a person. Guess what?.... eventually it will happen, and don't go looking to do it just to say you did. First experiences are rarely rewarding.

That includes sex and driving!!!! Take your time.

r.

GetBusyLiving

Nail the first thing that comes along!

GBL

Orgull

@ Thinking of Leaving:

hey I just realized we're almost the same age I'm November 12

Sweet! It's nice to know I'm not alone. Hello from a fellow Canadian (waves from Ontario)

shopaholic

Orgull and Thinking of Leaving,

You're not alone! Another club member here. Its also one of my main regrets...being a superdub is totally overrated and sooooo not normal. And yes, I think its not normal for me to be 30-something and a virgin.

funny thing in my heart I still feel it's wrong so don't really want to until I'm marriedwhat is wrong with us? sighhhhh

Ditto...although I feel that slowly changing...

Crumpet

(((((shopaholic)))))) - do keep us posted!

KW13

Never say never, i had all sorts of worries and anxiety about all this sort of thing and although yes much younger than you its not your fault and things will work themselves out. I hope you find the thing you need.

BlackRobeMage

I feel much the same way. I was brought up a witness from about 6 years old or so. I remember Christmas.. thought not real well. In any case.. to stay on topic. Being pressured as you are to abstain from fornication and basically anything that might bring you enjoyment really screws with you once you manage to extricate yourself from their authoritarian regime. In my case, there were few children my age in our congregation, and when I got to the age when boys are wanting to experience what 'its' all about I found myself with no one my age. When I was 16, the oldest girl in the Hall was MAYBE 12. Now this doesn't look really that encouraging at all. Granted we were supposed to be 'chase' and all, so I guess that my thoughts were in the wrong place. But you get the drift of where my mind was... From there things got worse. Asking questions to the Elders was basically frowned upon, and since one of the Elders was my Dad, I wasn't about to go spilling my guts to them. Between school and friends my own age that for some odd reason didn't care about the crazy religion I was in, I found myself moving further and further from the center that they want you to be in. I was a regular pioneer when I was disfellowshipped. For basically asking too much. Questioning God's arrangement of things. For that, I was cast out. The initial shock... ie. trying to find myself now that my 'support group' was gone, was difficult. As time has gone by, I have been able to re-learn the social skills that the JW's try to unlearn in you... Ok, I'll stop rambling now.. Long 1st post :) End story, I feel your pain, but time and real friends do dull the ache.. And yes, there are people out there that DO understand you, even if you don't know them yet!

bluebell

Welcome BlackRobeMage

Orgull, I was kinda a virgin when I left (had been sexually molested).

It was very difficult to open up to my now partner about the fact that I hadn't really ever had sex plus there was the added complication of being scared due to my history.

He was wonderful. We didn't have sex for months, he let me initiate everything, never pushing me, let me go at my own pace. I did sometimes feel guilt, if I felt like stopping I stopped.

There are many decent people out there, much more decent that alot of dubs. You will meet someone, but sometimes it just takes a while.

I work with someone who is in their late 20's, not a dub, just a work collegue, quite shy, and he was a virgin until very recently, so even people in the world are sometimes in your position because they don't want to just sleep with anyone but want to find someone special.

The guilt thing will always kick in, just because you have been so conditioned, but let your heart rule your head once in a while and you will find the guilt getting less.

My main regret? I'm still a virgin.

BFD