Yes my friends,
Rollerdave has been disfellowshipped, but not by any elder, and without anything approaching process.
I believe I had previously mentioned the ugly situation my niece finds herself in:
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/18/136762/1.ashx
Although I have taken to referring to NonDub as Tofu now.
We had spoken rather uncomfortably a few days ago, seems Matilda wasn't answering the phone whenever he or HH would call, he wanted me to try.
I did, and she answered, claimed to be unaware of Tofu and HH calling. I then spoke to him, and asked why Matilda could not spend more time here and he replied he was in a rather tough spot.
I agreed. He is. 'I know what you mean, your wife can't stand me"
And he breaks in 'No! no! no!, HH doesn't hate you, she's upset over things you have done and because you despise her'
What can you say to an assertion framed in such a way? Any response would tend to show acceptance of his premise. It was like talking to a dub, but he's never been one.
Her dislike for me? Perfectly understandable as anyone can see; my dislike of her, completely without reason!
The assertion that must never be questioned changes from 'the WTS is God's org and there is no honorable way to leave it' to 'HH is sweetness personified and there is no honorable reason to dislike her'
She had previously made a bald faced false allegation against me that nobody ever took seriously, so she changed her story so that Tofu could support her story, the only way I could 'make peace' with these people would be to admit what I have not done, and feel 'sorry' for it.
To continue denying it is to make HH out to be a liar, and that violates their unquestionable assertion.
I also would have to basically agree with every foul and derogatory thing they believe about me, because they cannot be wrong, I mean they KNOW I am an 'ass' and a 'jerk' and worse.
Of course I have no intention of doing any such thing.
Well, yesterday I have a simply awful day. The worst. I was going to post about it, but there was already a post about someone having a simply horrible day, much worse than mine. I didn't feel like disrespecting them, so I let it be.
Simply put, nobody knows where the coolant goes in my truck, it's vanishing and I suspect a head gasket, we gave our boat a ride all over town looking for a boat landing we liked, once we found one and got the boat into he water, it DID NOT return the favor and embarrassed me in front of all kinds of people I don't know and will never see again.
So there I am on the couch recovering and ol' Tofu calls me. He tells me he and Matilda had a meeting with her Dr. and what he is now saying is that I need to step out of the situation.
I attempt to clarify 'so what you are saying is that I am to have no further contact with Matilda.'
He says, 'yes. (your daughter) is fine because she is good for Matilda, but you are not because...' and he sputters out.
"(Your daughter) can still call or even come over and visit but you are not to have contact with Matilda anymore."
I say 'Ok, thank you. Have a nice day.' and hang up on him because I had a hard day and his reasons would just be more of the same assertions with built in presumption of my bad intent. I feared that he would get me riled, goad me into validating his opinion of me.
I had no words, no ready bit of wit or snide commentary. I sat there with my mouth open like a fool. I reached into my big bag of adjectives and came up dry!
I just felt numb.
I have been, in effect, DF'ed from seeing my niece. I refused to agree with their GB, HH, and am thus an 'apostate' against the 'troof' that HH is just lovelywonderful. I am to be shunned by the only remaining family member I have that is not a dub because she has no choice.
I call my sister, Mrs PO and she is amazed by the news, but reveals that Tofu had complained to her that Matilda's Dr refused to hospitalize her. They want to institutionalize her!
They couldn't because she is not a threat to herself or others. Boy am I glad I explained to her that she had to be a threat to be locked up so she wouldn't use 'feeling suicidal' as an excuse to get a break when she wasn't really.
Wow, hard to top that, but them Mrs PO tells me that our Mom has gone downhill so bad that she will require institutionalization in the near future.
At that point, I just went to bed.
Mom's Alzheimer's will do what it is going to do, there is nothing I can do but love her and cope, and Matilda is going to turn 18 and tell them to go to hell. I can't imagine that they really think this is going to work.
Roller