Marrying a "worldly" man...

by veronica_mars 23 Replies latest social relationships

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  veronica_mars

  It's funny, cause I never thought I would do this.

  Not that I am engaged, or even dating anyone for that matter... but I *could*.

  It's such a foreign concept to me... dating someone who isn't a witness. Who doesn't understand all this.

  I don't know why, but it does kinda scare me. I think that there are certain JW teachings that I will carry with me for a long time... and what if he doesn't get it?!

  I am single now, and hating every second of it. As badly as my marriage was, I miss being married. It was nice to come home to someone.

  It's weird looking at guys now, and thinking about dating. I never had to introduce a guy to my parents, since they always knew them! (from the hall)

  Sorry for the long rant... I am just trying to "re familarize" myself to this place... I think the support will help! :)
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  kerj2leev

  You don't have to date a worldly man there are plenty of hotties on here!
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  What-A-Coincidence

  i am datig material :)
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  free2think

  I know what you mean VM.

  It's really weird getting your head round it all now, there's no restrictions.
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  Gordy

  I'm a 56 yr old guy ex JW DA'd. Have been separated from wife for 10 years, may get round to actual divorce sometime.

  Yet in that time the idea of "dating" a "worldly" (hate that word) woman has hardly crossed my mind.

  I sometimes do think its something locked in my mind after 30 years as a JW. That I am still married, therefore not free to date. Or is it that I messed up first time and don't want to take the chance again.

  Does that seem strange?

  I have two sons at home 19, 27, though the 27 yr is moving out now. I have another son 31, who lives close by with his wife. But though I love them all, their lives are different to mine. They have their own friends and interests etc.

  Its not that I don't want a female friend, partner, future wife. I don't just mean for the sexual side of things either. But for (without sounding trite) the companionship, to have someone to talk to. to go out with. to enjoy things with.
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  greendawn

  I went past that phase long ago. The people outside the JWs are not at all a homogenius lot some will make decent marriage partners and some will not so one chooses accordingly. Someone with a religious attitude can find a similar minded person. Life is short and it's pointless wasting time by getting obsessed with tedious religious details just get on with someone decent.
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  lisavegas420

  I was married several years before I even told my husband about my JW background. He just thought my parents were werid.

  lisa
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  unique1

  OMG Lisavegas. He must have thought they were completely off their rocker!!!!!!!! That is too funny. What did he say when you told him, oh they are just in a cult.

  As for the OG post. Just keep an open mind. Consider it a new freedom. You can now walk down the street, see a cute guy and actually say hello or ask for his number. I am actually kindo jealous. However, I have found my lifemate.
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  mrsjones5

  Dating (not courting) a worldly man is called freedom.

  I married one too.
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  kerj2leev

  i am datig material :)

  Wac is hot and in Cali!