Now see, I must be thicker skinned than most.
It doesn't bug me when people make snide remarks about fat people, cripples, rednecks, hicks, yokels, gun-toting madmen, or damnfools; and I self identify as all of the above.
Would I use any of the above terms on another? well, some I would, some I wouldn't.
I was once called retarded by an elder by way of explanation why they would not baptise me (anyone else getting sick of me explaining that?) and it offended me greatly because he was NOT mocking, he was serious. If he had been joking, I think I would have been less offended, but still pretty steamed.
I understand very well the behaviors of the developmentally challenged, I used to DRIVE the short bus! I had quite a rapport with the kids on that route.
I also have cared on and off for a lil guy with Asperger's, he's my daughter's brother, but not by me. And we got folks who come out and hang out at our place, dear friends, who don't have anyplace else they can go to relax due to lack of understanding about their delayed child.
Would I use the so-called 'R' word about any of the kids on my bus, or the lil guy, or my friend's kid? No.
Any other actual delayed or disabled child? No.
One has to wonder about the actual probative value of imposing restrictions on speech, but that's not what you are doing so it isn't really an issue.
I have often said that the proper response to speech you don't like is not less speech, but MORE speech.
Ok, you are doing that by raising your objection and putting forth your warning. Fair enough.
Also, if you don't like what someone says, don't read their posts. Ok, you got THAT covered.
Fair warning delivered, you've done your part.
Whatever my thoughts on other's use of the word, it's not in my everyday lexicon and I'll try to watch it out of consideration for those who have said it offends.
Hey, I may be a cranky, fat, old gimpy fool but I don't go around TRYING to piss honest decent folks off!
I guess that's MY two bits.
Roller (of the 'thick-skinned' sheep class
