Quote: "You guys are making far too much of the boohoo thing, re-read the paragraph in question carefully:"
[quote]I'm not trying to belittle anything anyone has been through but EVERYONE, in my experience, has had some awful thing or other happen to them throughout their life. Maybe a mindset less 'boohoo, i have been screwed over and noone other than a JW could possibly understand my pain' and more of [b]'I, like many others in the world, have had a uniquely horrifying experience that i will share with those who show interest and possibly educate someone to the horror that can occur due to being a JW to those who might otherwise remain ignorant' would be a better mindset."
Bboy, nobody on this site was boohooing when bgurltryal wrote this missive. Nobody was asking for pity. The discussion was a genuine request for ideas on how to make friends. Her response was uncalled for and Xena was not wrong to take insult.
IMO, if Bgurl is exasperated with ex-JW's then perhaps it has something to do with her boyfriend. If she feels that he is a whiney, boo-hoo boy then she should address her concerns to him instead of giving her whining, expert advice to us.
The discussion on this thread was directed to ex-JW's not to a "lurker" who, while trying to find ways to control her boyfriend, "came here to understand the mindset and actions of my boyfriend better and get some insight into what the experience of being so controlled must be like".
Thank you Bboy and Englishman for the wonderful suggestions that you put forth on how to make friends. Yes, a big friendly grin does help. I look forward to meeting my new friends.
"Ha'Shem hu ha'Elokim"