I just LOVE newbies.
Best advise: Take a little bit to let your head quit spinning. Then realise that although there are choices - they aren't many, as far as the ongoing relationship with the Jw's go. The further you get untangled from the Jw mentality, the more that will likely become apparent.
A successful fade is an option of course - but in the end, you will likely find no common ground with them any longer anyway. Afterall, dubs rarely have anything to talk about outside of the dreamscape mentality that is the Watchtower. If you have significant family inside, then, as mentioned, the fade may allow you to at least maintain family relationships. It is not like leaving the local church on the corner - these folks most likely will view you with suspicion or hatred, just for daring to leave. The fellowship with Jw's is always about being Jw's, not about worshipping God, unfortunately.
I considered fading - since I had 40 years worth of friendships inside - but it did not take long to see that I could not keep my mouth shut and try and free some others. It didn't work. They stayed in - I DA'd in time. Now I know that I have nothing in common anyway with them.
Welcome. One suggestion; if you haven't done it already - read Ray Franz' book, In Search of Christian Freedom. His style and grace aided me greatly as I made my exit.
Jeff
