by freefromjws 49 Replies latest jw experiences
Absolutely!! I met with 3 elders 12 times! Made me sick every time I had to do it, I would have anxiety attacks the whole week before. I would not answer the personal questions however, I told them I didn't feel comfortable. That was probably no fun for them.
I cannot believe I ever allowed myself to be put in that position. Ridiculous.
Dear Free From Jws...
I was in front of 5 men (at 16) without my parents.....being asked questions I wish I could forget.......3 months later I was in front of another 5 men alone close to a nerveous breakdown because it was requested by my parents that it be reversed from the society. (I have posted this before...the only thing that saved me was the series "Roots" was being aired.....oh god did I identify with that. Although not whipped on a post......my very being felt like it)
Have you ever heard the song "Whipping Post"?
In the end it was reversed but this experience cut deep into my soul for life.
What happened was "date rape" by a "brother on reproof" from another hall......He was 8 years older than I was, and they believed everything he said......but not me.
My biggest fear is that under the guise of another name that A***ole will show up here under another name.
By the way...WELCOME!
r..
I was questioned by 5 elders...yep, 5...count em...FIVE bastards.
...and it wasn't over anything that I could be DFd over.
A group of young people had an impromptu party at a friends house whose parents were out of town. Sounds like the making of a John Hughes teen movie, right? Nope...the son whose parents house where the "scandal" occured was in his mid-twenties. And the party was just friends getting together to go sledding after a snow storm with coffee and hot chocolate afterwards.
But you'd have thought that an orgy had taken place from the reaction of the elders.
"Who was there?" "Did anyone pair off?" "Who sat next to who?" "Did you see anyone hold hands?" "Did anyone get too familiar with anyone else?" "What was Sister Seperated wearing?" "Did she flirt with anyone?"
They were on a witch hunt...you could almost see them licking their chops in anticipation of lowering the boom on someone. But, they came away disappointed...because it was all innocent fun and nothing improper happened, though we were counseled for having an unchaperoned gathering...which didn't make sense. The oldest person there was 30, an unmarried MS and the youngest was 19.
That's why you were df'd einstein!
I went through the same thing, they asked the same questions. they ask all those questions to find out Exactly what happened, without leaving out major details that could have an effect on the decision. When they asked me, I told them exactly what happened...every detail. And they could easily tell I was disgusted at what I did and I wanted to do everything nessasary to move past this. I was privately reproved. It's all in your attitude, you had a non-repentant attitude, and either justified what you did, or blamed it on your father or the elders. That's why you were df'd, you are a perfect example of why they ask specific questions like that-it brings out your true colors...
SeanGuy
It's all in your attitude, you had a non-repentant attitude, and either justified what you did, or blamed it on your father or the elders. That's why you were df'd, you are a perfect example of why they ask specific questions like that-it brings out your true colors...
Ah...there's that JW love of neighbor that you were talking about in the other thread...
Greetings freefromjws,
More shenanigans from the sick bastards who make up the "elder" body. Shame on your father for allowing those questions to be posed to you. That's as bad being raped IMO. Everytime I hear those perverts get away with that crap it makes my blood boil.
Good for you in not answering their sick questions. Fuck them!
Dismembered
I went through the same thing, they asked the same questions. they ask all those questions to find out Exactly what happened, without leaving out major details that could have an effect on the decision. When they asked me, I told them exactly what happened...every detail. And they could easily tell I was disgusted at what I did and I wanted to do everything nessasary to move past this. I was privately reproved. It's all in your attitude, you had a non-repentant attitude, and either justified what you did, or blamed it on your father or the elders. That's why you were df'd, you are a perfect example of why they ask specific questions like that-it brings out your true colors...
SeanGuy
Oh really......Watch yourself Seanguy......So you "Told them exactly what happened...every detail"....according to your version......
Why don't you fill us in on the details.
Lets see your true colors....be specific.......
r.
Greetings SeanGuy,
Welcome to JWD.
When they asked me, I told them exactly what happened...every detail. And they could easily tell I was disgusted at what I did and I wanted to do everything nessasary to move past this
Don't expect everyone to be as dumb as a box of rocks like you, for baring your soul to menial men who have no business questioning you about those things in the first place.
Dismembered
Its a witch hunt and thats all it is and depending on if the elders or one of them..has an ATTITUDE about you, you can be DFd, reproved or just have your wrist slapped.
One "brother" was brought into a JC and they had been given REEMS of paper with emails, chat room logs, phone conversations and lists of OTHER JWs who were in the same S&M online porn ring that he was...and he admitted to the elders stuff that they didnt even HAVE in their paperwork that he had done and said on TAPE that he had cheated on his wife no less than 5 times with worldly women...laughing about it...the first time being less than a month after they were married....and you know what they did to him?
Not a damn thing. They decided to MARK him and not tell anybody. His reply? "Damn...this is gonna mess up my Superbowl party."
Yeah...what a useful tool those JCs are in the work of the Lawd. Gotta keep that conjer-gashun CLEAN you know.
I was in a meeting with 3 elders from my NJ cong. and the questions they asked:
1. who undressed who
2. did he have oral sex with you
3 did you return oral sex
4. did you enjoy it, and HOW LONG DID IT LAST
5. what position(s) were we in
6. would I commit this sin again (all in front of my father) I was mortified and disappointed that my dad would allow this questioning to go on. He dragged me into the hallway and told me that if I didn't answer them and "repent" immediately, that I would be df'd.
Isn't the Catholic Church condemned by the WTS because they confess their sins to a man, a priest?
Warlock
