My hubby and I studied together with an elder and his wife. Niether of them are in the org. any more. He left first, then his wife. They got a divorce too. Hubby and I stayed in a few more years, then left 3 years ago.
Anyway, for a while I had some bitterness towards this couple because they outright lied to us about the organization. And I asked about whether or not the meetings and field service was mandatory and they both said NO! This elder also knew I did not agree with some of the teachings of the WT, and he told me that I did not have to believe everything the WT taught. It was up to my own conscience to decide what to do. He also told us the "society" did not expect us to "worship" it. When I found out these were all lies, I was furious!
It wasn't until I got baptized that I fully understood my mistake and it took many years to get out of the org. Today, I don't hold any hard feeling against them. I now realize the pressure they felt to bring someone into the org. And I am glad although I studied with many people, I did not bring any of them into the org. I refused to paint a rosy picture of the WT and let all my studies know that they WILL be required to do lots of works. Lilly