I remember as an elder ,one time a sister has a drug abusing husband that threatened to eat my heart out as my family helped her leave her violent and abusive situation, he later died of his abuse and never sought help, she could do nothing to improve the situation. It was ultimately in her hands as the situation got worse over time. God has called us to peace and no one should question another unless they walk a mile in their shoes. It is a personal and serious descision, the person has to answer to God and mate at the same time, it isnt an excuse for leaving but only they and God know how much a person can take. It is a personal descision that must be weighed heavily and especially if there are little ones to see all this behavior and also does a person want to break up a family.
Being a Christian doesnt mean to have "Welcome" stamped to our backs.
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