Whatever you decide to do I'm here for you. You know what is right FOR YOU and your well-being.
My mom calls every so often (about once a month, sometimes a little less); she called last weekend to "make sure I had RSVP'd for the wedding" - a family wedding - she knows I am organized and keep on top of this stuff... so it suspiciously sounded like she came up with an excuse to call me. But after that exchange happened, she hemmed and hawed and then let me go. I could tell the guilt had set in and she felt the need to hang up...
After reading this thread I think I will go out to see her. I can hug her and smile my biggest 100-watt smile, and she can't resist it (I always want to say to her, "mom if you wanted to resist me, you shouldn't have raised me to be so irresistible." But I don't think we are quite to that joking place ... yet...).
Richie, if I lived closer to you I'd give you the biggest hug - you, me and Sparkplug could group hug and then we'd all feel better.