I wrote for the first time 5 months ago. One of my sisters, a Hoho, was married 27 years to an MS who has abused her mentally, emotionally, physically, and this was well-known to most everyone who knew them including family. When she filed for divorce, I heard that our parents, other family and ex-friends yelled at and criticized her, and then the elders called her into a meeting and condemned her, I was furious. And here was my sister, suicidal and with no where to go!
I wrote a simple question: Dear sirs: Which does Jeh--ah hate more: a divorcing or spousal abuse? They responded with 'both acts are a wrongdoing and can result in disfellowshipping and any marriage can be saved using the bible'. I wrote back asking how they could judge that both acts are a wrongdoing without knowing any of the facts of a case, and also asked that they please answer the initial question. They didn't respond again, but they did contact the local congregation (our old cong) and one of the elders emailed me since I signed both letters with my initials. He asked if I was being abused and could they do anything to help. Can they behave with any less class, or more ignorance? I did not respond to the local elder.