Wow, I had no idea such a site existed. My wife and I are former JW's, we left the "truth" 10 years ago. My parents are still steadfast, my Father has not spoken to us we announced we were done. I sympathize with all of you who have been shunned by family members - just remember what it was like when you were "active" and going with the program - or should I say programming.
My wife and I decided to get out shortly after we got married and had our first child. We both made the decision individually but her family still blames it on me. I was disfellowshipped at age eighteen. They kept me out for a year even though I attended meetings the entire time and told the elders what they wanted to hear. For me it was a pride thing, plus I didn't want my family to be shamed forever. I really tried to "make the truth my own" but if it doesn't touch your heart after 20+ years it is not the truth. I forgive my family for their continued disregard for me, my wife and six children - they are the ones missing out. Their punishment will be swift and just. I grew up with all the hypocrite friends, they were all just as "bad" as me, they just never got caught. The elders who DF'd me had a personal vendetta against me and my parents. My parents were just too brainwashed to see it. They eventually switched congregations but never admitted they disagreed with the elders. My mother kept in touch with me the entire time even though she was not supposed to. To this day the elders warn her about associating with me, my father used to enforce restrictions but he is no longer an elder (not sure if he stepped "aside" or was removed) and has loosened the restrictions over the years.
So that is my story and I am sticking to it Can someone please tell me what hoho means? I thought I had heard it all, apparently not. My wife and I joined the Mormon Church 9 years ago, yeah, that went over really well a year after our departure from the "truth". For those of you who think Mormons are just like JW's I can relate, however we really are nothing alike. Enough about that - I am not trying to promote the LDS church...promise.
I am really glad to know that this site exists. Thanks to those who work so hard to maintain this site - true brotherly love.