I was never even baptised and my crazy JW(recently divorced from his 3d JW wife) uncle will talk to me if absolutely required to. My mom and I get along well, but there is that big elephant in the middle of the living room, rarely acknowledged, because it tends to stomp the love out of the room.
Whats nuts is that the crazy JW murderer in my family is welcomed by all the JWs everywhere(wronged wives can murder husbands and mistresses in their bed with impunity), my alcoholic uncle is also, but my mom only talks to her disfellowshipped JW sister when someone is dying. Yes, my family is screwed up! Letting people know the marks of a controlling religion is not wrong. Pointing out the ways that the WT controls is not wrong.
Being a young person, much of the JW policy and rules can go right past you. And some JWs are less dogmatic about association than others. When I was in w. coast JWs don't go dancing or drinking EVER, in NJ, they regularly did just that. People are different, but if we are going to discuss WT teachings, it should be what the ORG is saying, not what the rank and file does in spite of the Org. An interesting discussion might be the many ways JWs circumvent some of the restrictions placed upon them by the WT org.