For those who are fading, do you feel the pressure building as the memorial approaches? Family members who otherwise are busy with their own interests suddenly start paying more attention, dropping hints and holding their breath as it were.
Then there are the invitations. I don't get this. All of a sudden brother overighteous tries to get a hold of you to give you a personal invitation to the memorial. As though it's his own function, a party being thrown in his honor or something.
And if you don't go, oh be prepared for waterworks and broken hearts. It seems the ultimate sin is ignoring the memorial. Even my relatives who have never been witnesses and never want to be attend the memorial every year for some reason.
Just curious how others deal with this subject.