You know, I have had this exact conversation with my mother. I am no longer JW, but her excuse for not speaking to me is that scripture about divisions in families. To her, it is a wonderful thing because she feels she is pleasing God by ignoring me. I also asked her about the scriptures that speak of Jesus' examples in the bible of showing love and kindness to all, even prostitutes, tax collectors and the like. I even quoted the scripture that speaks of the "golden rule", treating others as you would want to be treated, etc. She had no real answer for me, except that we are living in "satans" system and that it will be this way until the "new system". She then proceeded to to tell me that before she is a mother or a daughter, she is one of "Jehovahs People" and that will not change. My mother has always been on the fanatical side of the JWs. You can't tell her anything, or convince her that maybe she is wrong.
I am not DFd, but I am treated as if I don't exist. It is absolutely disgusting. I asked my JW parents what they are trying to prove by behaving this way, their only answer is more scripture quoting.....I can't take it, it just makes me insane. It is like talking to a robot that is only programmed with certain responses, with no independent intelligence or reasoning ability whatsoever. I often wonder what it will take to shake them up..........
Thanks, Vita