I am also fading, my husband is very active, and I have 2 kids. Mine are teenagers, though, but I have chosen NOT to DA myself for several reasons.
My number one priority right now is making sure that my kids never become JWs. You've heard the expression, 'Keep your friends close, but your enemies closer.'.... I find that the better informed I can stay on what's happening at their meetings, who they are friends with and who they are rubbing shoulders with at the meetings, the better equipped I can be to keep them on the path OUT of the WT.
If I were DF'd or DA'd, I would be severely limiting my own freedom to interact with the people who are influencing my children. I plan on using every trick in the book to keep my kids out, and limiting my freedom is not in their best interests right now.
Knowledge is power. When your kids ask you questions, by all means, answer them! Let them know, (taking into account their ages and their ability to understand, of course) why you are doing what you are doing. If you have real, honest answers for their questions, the WT way of thinking will slowly make less and less sense to them. Make sure they know that you love them, unconditionally, no matter what they say or do or believe, and that they can ask you anything without reprocussions. Don't just tell them once.... they need to hear it over and over again.
Good luck to you.