I'd like to say: "I'm so sorry, but, I cannot make any comments, according to my attorney, because of the on-going litigation against them."
But, seriously what someone else said:
"I am here to memorialize my loved one (the decedent). I really don't want to discuss anything else at this time. Let's focus on what a wonderful person so-and-so was
...is a lot better approach I think. Or perhaps confuse the issue like I did this summer at a family reunion (mostly JW's) I said "Fine...I'm just fine...I just want to hear all about you..." I started asking dozens of questions which kept them at bay for a while. My Aunt & Uncle came back later 'one-on-one' which is the way I hoped it would be. I did not want the pressure of me or them 'playing to an audience'. I also didn't want the '2 witness rule' to come into play.
I got asked the 'killer' question "Do you still believe this is God's org....?" I was just real non-committal, "I have some questions", I'm not sure about some things", "I'm looking into those things" and of course, 'Yes, I am praying for answers."
My very favorite: "Are you really spending time thinking about Jehovah's promises thru his Faithful Slave ? About Paradise... & Armageddon...?" Me: "Oh, yeah. You would never believe just how much I think of that. You'd be surprised at the time I spend talking to others about that...!" (I almost laughed then) Them: Well, OK. That's good to hear!
I smiled confidently -- looked them in the eyes...and BS'd them, just like I was taught as a pioneer. Later, I felt bad I was in effect 'lying by omision' to my own relatives. But, considering they would have felt compelled to 'turn me in' to the elders for 'help' if I told them the truth...that 'bad' feeling went away. I cannot afford to officially lose access to my children by being DF, it's bad enough being marked.