Have you had a midlife crisis? A sort of poll.... (page 5)

FlyingHighNow

Flyin' mam' for you :

Thank you bem. I was hoping to help all of us even if only a little by starting this discussion and maybe even though with midlife still ahead of them. So again: Bttt.

Flyin'

Dan-O

I don't think they'd taste good together and you might get sick

Probably about like some of the drinks we enjoyed in college ... Flaming Jellybeans, and beer bongs, and stuff like that. I still cringe every time I see a large funnel with a hose attached to it.

FlyingHighNow

Probably about like some of the drinks we enjoyed in college

Hey, Dan-o very glad to hear you went to college.

Flyin'

gumby

Mid life

Where is mid life? 40 or 50? I'd say 35 to 40.

I don't think I've went through it but who would know when your going through ex-dubba phobia at the same time? Dealing with exiting the borg and dealing with emotional issues inflicted on you from the cult makes it tough to recognise whether your going through the change or not. I haven't bought any gold necklaces, or ditched my wife for an 18 year old yet, or started dressing like a 25 year old.........but I'm thinkin about it. Does that count?

Gumby

Hugs heather

FlyingHighNow

but I'm thinkin about it. Does that count?
Gumby
Hugs heather

Hey, Gums, I was wondering when you were going to drop by my thread for a visit.

Aw, c'mon what on earth would you talk to an 18 year old about anyway? Most of them can't name a Beatle and would slap their hands over their ears and whine if you popped in Hendrix: Axis Bold As Love. I'm certain that Mrs. Gumby is infinitely more interesting than any ten 18 year olds.

I am a multi-tasking worrier. I was able to worry about the JW hell and midlife all at the same time. Heck, I was even worrying about my kids, too. I think my biggest thing was why didn't anyone tell me how fast it was going to happen that I would wake up and no longer be a kid.

I felt like a kid until I hit 38. Then I thought, wow, I finally feel like a grown up. Then 41 hit and the "fun" began. But it wasn't all bad. I realized I do get more respect now, even though my babyface fools a lot of people. I do have a little bit of real wisdom, too. I've learned a few things and I don't have to go back and learn them again.I've earned every line and every silver hair. They give me interesting character if I do say so myself.

Thank you bunches for the hugs and the flower. I wish you could see the pleasant smile you have put on my face.

Flyin'

gumby

I think my biggest thing was why didn't anyone tell me how fast it was going to happen that I would wake up and no longer be a kid.
I felt like a kid until I hit 38. Then I thought, wow, I finally feel like a grown up. Then 41 hit

People who are su[pposed to tell you life will pass by quickly.......forget to tell you cuz they are old bastards and have already lost their minds.

I think my body started going down the crapper at about 43 if I remember correct.....so you have 2 years to go I never thought I would get old even if I got old. My mom is 80 and bounces around like a spun chicken.....I like sitting.

So you have a young looking face huh? How about another close up pic?

Gumby

Sunnygal41

This is such a great thread.........lots of meaty, wise comments!

Flyin' , I agree about the wrinkles and the silver hair..........in fact, I WILL NOT dye my hair. I love the way it looks..........and, as I've gotten older, I don't feel the need to wear any makeup........a little lip gloss for the most part and I'm good to go. I also agree about Lyin', you are one of those classically beautiful ladies, like Marilyn Monroe and Audrey Hepburn. If I need to make ANY change at all, that is that for my health's sake, I need to shed all these extra pounds I've put on! I want to be able to walk again without huffing and puffing. And to think I used to be in track and horseback rode every day!!

Terri

talesin

I feel like I am just nearing the end of my mid-life crisis. Until I read this thread, I never identified it as such. The crash came two and a half years ago. I had had several failed pregnancies, my partner and I split up, and I was sick with a long term illness. I could no longer do my artwork, as I have had problems with my hands, and I was dirt poor.

For the first year or so, I merely survived. Life seemed hopeless. I felt old beyond my years. In the past, I had never thought about my age, but now it seemed that I was down and out, and there I would remain. So, I set a list of priorities. Get my physical health back, keep in touch with my friends who moved away, make new ones and set goals for getting back to work. It took a couple of years, but I am finally there. I have some new friends, my health is better than it has been in many years, and I have a new part-time job. I'm still poor :), and my hands are still not in the best shape, but I have started carving again, and hope to work on painting/drawing over the summer if my hands will cooperate. That means more $$, so the finances will change.

Instead of feeling hopeless and old, I am now feeling '45 going on 15' again (well, 46 actually, but who is counting?). Instead of feeling that I will never have a good job, I am beginning to see a multiplicity of opportunities that are available to me.

I decided to be a full redhead again for a couple of years, and after I tire of that, I will let my grey shine through as a badge of honour. As you and Sunnygal pointed out, I too feel that the growing signs of my age are not unattractive. Wrinkles and grey hair soften and frame my face quite appropriately, and as I grow to my full maturity, I can honestly say, that I have no desire to be younger. I am healthier than I ever was in my twenties, my friends are 'real' and I'm at peace with myself.

Flyin', that's one of my favorite poems. I first read it in one of Gloria Steinem's books, and took it to heart. I look forward to being an old woman, sitting on my front porch in a rocker, soaking up the wildlife and joys that natures holds whilst holding a paintbrush in my hand and listening to rock and roll with a good dose of Mozart mixed in. Thanks for the thread.

tal

SheilaM

I had mine at 38, when I realized in two years I would have an empty nest. What I did....I went back to school, found this forum, started my writing etc. It was a good thing

FlyingHighNow

So you have a young looking face huh? How about another close up pic?
Gumby

I always did look like the Sunbeam Bread girl. The pic was taken two years ago when I was 43. As a younger woman I thought looking like a baby was a pain in the backside. Now it's pretty cool.

Flyin'

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