so i signed up for EHarmony...

SnakesInTheTower

so I took Mr & Mrs Flippers advice from a previous thread (http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/9/141197/1.ashx) and signed up for EHarmony.com..seeing as it worked so well for them..... I signed up for a year...not because I am a pessimist, but a realist. It could take that long or longer...and it was only $20 month instead of $35 for signing up for a year vs month to month.

anyone else here use EHarmony?

One thing I found interesting was that there was a check box under the profile section for religion for Jehovah's Witnesses Now, if JWs are not supposed to be on the online dating sites, why is there a specific category for JWs? Because there must be a hell of a lot of them on EHarmony and EH.com realized that.

Needless to say, I did not check that box, just chose "Christian and prefer not to specify"...why scare off some nice girl because I am (soon not to be) part of a cult...the picture probably is doing a good enough job of scaring them off. what do you think...good idea or bad idea about the religious preference? Is it being dishonest?

I have not used the FastTrack button (to bypass all of the Guided communication steps),, but I am wondering if I should, since I keep getting matches closed after the first set of questions. There really is no way (except on a couple of questions) in the early stages as EH has it set up to customize your replies.

Also, photos...I probably need to put up a more casual photo right now....but havent had the time. I have closed a couple of matches sent to me based on photos alone. Does that make me shallow? I am sorry if it does...but if it doesnt click, it doesnt click. I have went ahead and started the communications without a photo but requested they show one.....I am a very visual person but not shallow...I dont have to have a supermodel...just someone who takes care of themselves.

any suggestions ....and I am going to take some advice from the prior thread and just go put myself in some social situations (non JW) and just get out there. Thanks for past advice from some of you........as I continue my journey out of the cult of dubland and into the real world....I am ready for whatever it throws at me.

Snakes ()

OnTheWayOut

If they give you a "Christian, but prefer not to specify" then that should be fine.

I don't think you should ask to see a photo unless you offer one, but that's an opinion.

Enjoy the dates, don't assume each one is "Miss Right" too quickly, nor "Miss Wrong."

misanthropic

What? No link to your profile ;-) Good luck, let us know how it goes.

eclipse

Does that make me shallow?

lol, no, it makes you normal

I wish you all the best in meeting someone special, snakes

SnakesInTheTower

OTWO:

I don't think you should ask to see a photo unless you offer one, but that's an opinion.

I have a photo, kind of formal, suit and tie kind of thing...I need to add some casual photos.'

And I dont rule too quickly ....other than a gut feeling on a couple of pics.....otherwise, I send the first questions and wait for their reply.

misa...no, no link to the profile...sorry... :) You might get a kick out of it though.....

I find it interesting that there is no search function.. I cannot browse the membership....they send the matches,..and I am getting quiet a few..seems like they are doling them out slowly...as matches close, they add more.

Snakes ()

nvrgnbk

Look, Snakes!

You got a reply, man!

Nice curves, flexible, slim, wary, cautious, no head in the clouds here, firmly planted on the ground, easy-going.

Pic below:

SnakesInTheTower

LMAO at nvr..

of course I expected this from you my friend..... I would have been disappointed if you had not. toast to ya.

SnakesInTheTower (of the "not wanting a cold blooded girl" Sheep Class)

Gretchen956

Good luck with your search snakes. As for me, nope, haven't tried it. Strictly for heteros.

Sherry

sammielee24

Good luck snakes! I'm sure it will be fun at the very least!

A friend of ours met his current wife on a site that was similar to that one but I can't remember the name of it. He chose a site that you had to pay for rather than a 'free' site because he felt that it showed more of a committment from those using it, that they weren't there just for a quick hook up. He met a few women, connected to this woman, they dated for 5 years and then got married. It worked out great for them. No regrets.

sammieswife.

Smiles_Smiles

Good for you for signing up for eHarmony.

I met my Sweetie on eHarmony. We have been together for almost 2 years. We are still loving it.

I know 3 other married couples who met on eHarmony.

Good Luck!!!

so i signed up for EHarmony...

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