I had posted this on the Online Dating thread (http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/141117/4.ashx) but realized it really was a hijack so I have moved it here.
Regarding dating and online stuff....
Look folks...I am neither an optimist or a pessimist on this topic..I am a realist and here is the reality for me. I can and do have nice conversations with women...usually better than with men. It seems that I am considered "safe".. whatever the heck that means...women seem to be comfortable around me...but it never leads to a romantic relationship. I have lots of female friends, but none seem to click (their choice not mine). I am doing serious self-examination to see where I am going wrong and will change (or try to at least) whatever flaw is there that is causing the issue.
I am not a hot stud. I am balding...so what? I keep what hair I have short and neatly trimmed (read: no combover). I am short (5'6") but so what? We all can't be tall. People don't mess with me because I dont take any crap from anyone anymore...and in my line of work you have to have a bit of attitude...I don't allow that attitude to cross over into personal relationships. That would be a problem. I just refuse to be walked on anymore.... 35 years of being raised in a doormat religion have caused me to take this stand.
I am not fat (but not muscular either), I work out, go to a personal trainer. I try to eat healthy, but enjoy sweets once in awhile. I don't get drunk. I enjoy wine, beer, whiskey in moderation I have a good income, low debt load soon to be 0. I am not a cheapskate. The few times I have taken a gal out to dinner I was not afraid to spend money.
So why the hell can't I find a nice girl? Because...well.. I think RF hit it right...some of these girls are stupid and seem to get into abusive relationships:
the women, at least the ones my age, typically go for the guys that will treat them like crap. The ones that will hit them, talk bad about them in public, and just outright disrespect them any way they can
The rest so far...are already married or too young or old (and I have established a wide age range, so I am not being too picky). Although my pool of choices has widened now that I am not looking for a JW! (I wonder if a girl who never was a JW would really understand a current fading JW?) And to be honest, I think some (not all, some) women are too damn picky...they want that GQ stud and there arent many of them around....I am not GQ anything.
So I just keep busy, stay mostly happy, keep my eyes open...and hope for the best..... any suggestions?
SnakesInTheTower (of the "not a psycho guy, really" Sheep Class)