Children or no Children?

Sirona

The JWs used to always have discussions about whether to have children "in this system of things".

I used to always think it was pathetic to avoid having kids because of the so-called impending armageddon.

However. Despite the fact that I've always wanted kids, right now I'm not so sure. Just look at the things happening in the world. London is bombed....and why? because IMO this is a knock on effect from the whole Iraq invasion. Not only that, don't you think that being here is just sometimes so difficult?

On the other hand, I'm so often astounded by the beauty of the world, the true love within people and the amazing things that there are to experience. I've had experiences that I cherish. I have met people who I'm in awe of. I've enjoyed wonderful food. I have enjoyed owning my puppy (he is just so gorgeous).

I know this isn't the opinion of most, but my view is that we reincarnate. Therefore the soul who I have as a child has chosen to be back here in a physical body and has chosen us as their parent.

Both me and hub are unsure. We are waiting anyway, right now.

How do you feel? Have kids or not?

Sirona

skyman

Kids are great I have two and we as a family do everything together. I have seen from my friends in and out of the Borg the family that plays together stay's together.

kid-A

I completely agree. An incredibly complex decision. I am recently married, and still undecided about kids...I have been told by several people I know that were in a similar conumdrum that having kids requires a willful suspension of "over-analysis"....so perhaps I am just overanalyzing the whole situation, but, surely a decision of this magnitude requires a huge amount of analysis and weighing of pros and cons? Seems like catch-22. The world is a rotten place, but there are moments of incredible joy and satisfaction as well, yet doesnt bringing children into this situation make me morally responsible for both the agony and the joy of their potential lives???? Not sure.

What I am guessing is that, once they are born, all pre-existing doubts would just completely vanish and natural instincts just take over, its the dreaded "decision" stage that seems so daunting!

tetrapod.sapien

over population. so no kids.

i'd adopt before throwing more useless DNA out into the sea of humanity.

Princess

You won't ever regret having kids. They are wonderful, beautiful, annoying and expensive, but incredible little people who never cease to amaze.

We didn't want kids when we first were married. After seven years we changed our minds and by eight years we had one, ten years and we had two.

We'd have more if they weren't so all consuming and expensive. We don't feel like we have the time and resources for more.

You're only (almost) 30, you have plenty of time.

Rachel

Billygoat

Mozz and I are waiting just a bit longer to have our little ones. We really feel the need to be financially stable before we do it. That should just be another two or so years away. We'd also like to adopt a child...from China or Latvia perhaps. We'd love to adopt a Japanese child, but our chances of that happening are slim to none. The Japanese culture does not look highly at adoptions, so finding a person willing to put their unwanted child up for adoption is hard. They'd rather keep their "orphans" in goverment funded orphanages and not sign their parental rights away.

damselfly

I plan on adopting any children that I have. Mind you that day is still far in the future

Dams

Cygnus

No kids for me. a) I'm too selfish. b) I see how older age has ravished my dad and I wouldn't ever want to have my kids see me like that and feel so sad like I do, or worse, deal with my death

stevenyc

Were thinking of trying for some now. To tell you the truth, I'm absolutly pertrified about the idea of being responcible for a bunch of little steveNYC's.

steve

GoingGoingGone

i'd adopt before throwing more useless DNA out into the sea of humanity.

Speak for yourself! JUST KIDDING!!

I was never the kind of person who especially liked kids, although for some reason I always knew I would have my own.

I have 2 teenagers. When they were young, I thought they were a lot of work. Now, they don't need me to make them lunch and change their clothes, but they need me to be there for them emotionally - and it's a huge challenge. Worrying about how to raise them to be good people takes up much of my brainpower....

Through the years, we have dealt with health issues, which have been very trying, and quite a bit of other stuff. But, at the end of the day, I wouldn't trade being a mother for anything in the world. I love my kids more than I ever dreamed that I could love another human being.

Either way, it's a huge decision. I wish you all the best in making it!!!

GGG

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