Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child?

Lostreality

How do you feel about spanking in the "child being punished by the parent" sense of the word? Do you use that sort of punishment on your children? Discuss...:-p

Growing up as a JW with an elder for a father he believed in corporal punishment. We were beat into submission, literally. He used the belt, wooden spoon, and his personal favorite, a thick cedar board loving called the paddle. He emotionally punished us, verbally, and of course long periods of being grounded. All of which he did without any qualms in front of people, made him feel like a big man I guess. I remember when I was 13 he had grounded me from everything he could think of even my pantyhose and curling iron, just because I couldn't get my grades up in Math. Great Dad huh? So now I have my own three children. My husband and I both agree on reasoning with our children about things they did wrong, or using time outs. See my husband was never spanked in his entrie life, and grounded only once. Didn't mean he never got into trouble, just that he recieved different consequences for his actions, not beatings. He turned out great and was never a spoiled child. I want my child to grow up loving and respecting me, not hating me for the way I treated them. We are strict with in our children in certain areas, so I'm not worried about them being spoiled. Only spoiled with love. hg

Lostreality

Good call, i remember being spanked in the back of the hall at about 10 years old, trying not to scream my lungs out, because all that was protecting me and my dad from the rest of the hall was a 2cm piece of glass with the shades drawn. everytime i went back there, i almost started crying...

StinkyPantz

I was spanked as a child. It was never excessive. That being said, I don't plan on spanking my children.

heatherg

It's amazing what they got away with, nowadays social services would be knocking on your door taking your kids away. You can't even disaplin your children at all in public anymore without someone giving you a dirty look or even coming over to say something. hg

freedom96

Parents must not get out of control when spanking.

And each child is different. My first son, never had to spank him. My second, I have swatted twice, basically to get his attention.

Don't like it, and I will not use it as a punishment, such as "wait til you get home you are going to get a spanking!"

upside/down

"...time outs?..." sigh.......

u/d (of the whatever happened to "balanced" parenting?, class)

Englishman

My father never ever whacked me for anything.

However, my teachers were a different matter! I was caned, on the hand, (not the botty as per the pic) by 9 separate teachers during my school days. They all knew I was a JW too. Most times I was caned for talking in class or for being cheeky. I'm still the same, I just don't get so much grief for it!

Englishman.

marcosgarcia

Oh yeah, I was spanked with a paddle as a child. Ouch! It is painful, generates hateful feelings toward the parent and teaches us that might makes right which is not good. It also causes emotional problems, fear, introvertedness, timidness etc..

Waiting in line for a spanking was the worse. No I don´t do it to my kids like my parents did it to me. Parents lose control once in a while and so do children, but beating a child is not the answer and you will feel like such a wicked & evil person afterwards. Today parents would be arrested for the tactics used inthe past, but these are different times for some of us and they were doing what they thought was right. Don't think for a minute that many children are not subjected to awful beatings, it is common practices in many parts of the world where children are considered property and there are no protecting authorities. If you do spank, I think it means you are the one out of control - not the child.

chrissee

I remember having to pull out a chair and lay over it when my father was going to spank us with his leather belt. I cried the whole time begging him not too. My mother too, was a hitter. Out of the blue sometimes, **Whack** bloody nose! I just think that years ago spanking was ok, nowadays I cringe when I see a kid being spanked or slapped in public, I feel sorry for what a kid gets at home!

I have 2 children and have never, ever spanked them and they are very well behaved. My husbands mother was in a very abusive relationship while he was growing up, his step-father never hit him but my husband knew he'd never hit his kids.

Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child?

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