I don't believe he is behind the visits as he seems to be uncomfortable and caught off guard when they come knocking. He's friendly to them, but he is also placating them. The one guy is good friends with his mother and has shown up twice in a row. I've actually heard them mention his mother and say things like "Are you feeling depressed?", "Remember __ __, when you used to come to the Kingdom Hall? He has moved back to the area and would love to see you at a meeting again.". He wasn't even home when the JW's showed up this past week. I dealt with them and told them to leave. Husband had been picked up by a coworker but his car was in the driveway. The elders (who apparently know whose cars are whose in our driveway) got testy when I said he wasn't home and when I asked what their agenda is, since they will only speak to him. I know these aren't the average drop a Watchtower off at a random residence visits, because they don't try to converse with me at all. I'm pretty sure they assumed he was home, would hear a commotion at the door and come speak to them.
Like I said, things were great until his parents didn't get their own way. Now he is being pressured to apparently choose between them and the kids and myself. I do believe he is greatly fearful of being cut out of his parents' lives. Unfortunately, I am the one getting blamed for this pressure and I don't want him to have to choose, rather just put his priorities in the right place. He is married and should put us first. When not at work, he's becoming a recluse around the house to avoid me most of the time and avoids household chores and parenting responsibilities. Thankfully, I work from home which allows me to be there full-time for our kids, but I do get tired of always working and not getting any help around the house. He sometimes tries to minimize my role and what I do for the girls, and him, as if he is the only one earning money. Anyway, it is almost like having a mouthy teenager in the house lately. He needs a good slap beside the head to realize what he is doing to us. Maybe I should just call his mother and tell her to come pick up her bratty son so she can pick up after him ;)
I do appreciate the advice.