guess my first post won't show up due to ie, so trying again.... .
wondering what signs to look for if i suspect in-laws are planning to shun my husband.
he has not been to kh since his teen (20+) years and i am not a jw.
That's what I'm worried about. Since he won't attend KH on his own free will and the elders have gotten nowhere with their visits and didn't like that I told them to not return, they are trying to create a new situation (remodeling a family member's home) and putting him in the vicinity of this "family friend" without me being around. Seems so innocent, right? And if I complain, I'm a lunatic for thinking such horrible things about the in-laws.
By the way, when is the "end" coming?
guess my first post won't show up due to ie, so trying again.... .
wondering what signs to look for if i suspect in-laws are planning to shun my husband.
he has not been to kh since his teen (20+) years and i am not a jw.
He was baptized as one before I met him. He left shortly after meeting me on his own doing as I was pretty naieve (still kind of am) as to how JWs operate.
guess my first post won't show up due to ie, so trying again.... .
wondering what signs to look for if i suspect in-laws are planning to shun my husband.
he has not been to kh since his teen (20+) years and i am not a jw.
Guess my first post won't show up due to IE, so trying again...
Wondering what signs to look for if I suspect in-laws are planning to shun my husband. He has not been to KH since his teen (20+) years and I am not a JW. There has been a lot of stress in our marriage over past arguments over the in-laws and now they are back in town for a few weeks to work on a family member's home. In addition to this, there is an elder who is helping them...the SAME elder who has come to our home attempting to lure my husband back into attending KH. There have been at least 3 such visits over the past year and I ended up sending a certified letter to the local KH informing them to stop the harassment. Husband is stuck in the middle and tries to avoid confrontation or even broaching the subject. Just says he has "handled it" which I doubt. I think he is torn and trying to appease his mother though this meddling is not beneficial to him, myself or our kids. Husband claims this elder is a "family friend" and I'm being absurd to worry. I do not trust his intentions at all. He is a friend of his mother's, not ours. In-laws don't like me at all (saw a post about myself on FB) and husband blames me for torn relations that put him in the middle. I really don't think he wants to rejoin them (he makes fun of the "cult"), but he can't seem to bluntly tell them to stop the shenanigans. What could they be holding over his head?? I can only assume that they are possibly threatening to shun him because I tried to set some boundaries on the meddling when they come to visit. I don't want poor relations with them or to put him in the middle, but their actions have been toxic and a marriage counselor said to set boundaries whether they like it or not.
do jehovah's witnesses tend to contact family members no longer associated with the religion, especially around holidays, and try to get them to "come back"?
i'm married (never been a jw) and husband hasn't been a part of that religion since his teens (he's now 39).
i've written here before regarding my in-laws sending people to our house from kingdom hall, etc.
Yes.
do jehovah's witnesses tend to contact family members no longer associated with the religion, especially around holidays, and try to get them to "come back"?
i'm married (never been a jw) and husband hasn't been a part of that religion since his teens (he's now 39).
i've written here before regarding my in-laws sending people to our house from kingdom hall, etc.
He has not been to KH in over 20 years. He doesn't practice their religion. He votes, belongs to a union at work, we have an American flag on our porch (gasp) and he has celebrated many holidays over the years. We've known each other for years, long before getting married. I made my feelings known that I would NEVER become part of that religion. He himself calls them a cult. His family has never been happy that we were dating (because of my non-JW status), but we were always friendly to each other. It wasn't until children came along that I noticed a change in THEM, especially after I wouldn't tolerate them hitting and yelling at our daughter.
I do believe he feels torn; however, it is incredibly unfair of him to want it both ways...just to appease his mother's wishes of having him be with her in "paradise" and blame me for his problems.
Coincidentally, when his very non-JW grandmother died a couple of years ago, his mother had a very-JW oriented service at the funeral home, including speakers from the KH and claims that "gram" was in the process of joining the Kingdom Hall. This lady celebrated Christmas, birthdays, Easter, the works, and never would have wanted that! But in his mother's eyes, she was going to make her mom part of her "fairy tale". The deceased sister's were very unhappy with how her service went. All the more reason, I feel she is behind his misguided feelings now...pressure to become part of her fairy tale life.
do jehovah's witnesses tend to contact family members no longer associated with the religion, especially around holidays, and try to get them to "come back"?
i'm married (never been a jw) and husband hasn't been a part of that religion since his teens (he's now 39).
i've written here before regarding my in-laws sending people to our house from kingdom hall, etc.
I believe you are correct on that.
do jehovah's witnesses tend to contact family members no longer associated with the religion, especially around holidays, and try to get them to "come back"?
i'm married (never been a jw) and husband hasn't been a part of that religion since his teens (he's now 39).
i've written here before regarding my in-laws sending people to our house from kingdom hall, etc.
Thank you all for the advice...this is giving me kind of a new perspective on some recent behavior, and why he may be acting this way. This has been very frustrating to me!
do jehovah's witnesses tend to contact family members no longer associated with the religion, especially around holidays, and try to get them to "come back"?
i'm married (never been a jw) and husband hasn't been a part of that religion since his teens (he's now 39).
i've written here before regarding my in-laws sending people to our house from kingdom hall, etc.
He has told many a story about his dad being mean during his childhood...but always has an excuse for his behavior.
I have suggested marriage counseling but he refuses. I believe he is afraid a counselor would side with me, even though you and I both know a counselor is supposed to just listen and not take anyone's side. I also wonder if his family isnt' telling him to steer clear of counseling at my request...
I've spent many a sleepless night lately trying to figure out how to fix things just to make him happy. Unfortunately, I don't think he even knows what it will take to make him happy. I just think he is being guilt tripped and it is making him miserable. What bothers me is that I'm being made out to be some kind of monster and those who know me know I am nothing like that.
do jehovah's witnesses tend to contact family members no longer associated with the religion, especially around holidays, and try to get them to "come back"?
i'm married (never been a jw) and husband hasn't been a part of that religion since his teens (he's now 39).
i've written here before regarding my in-laws sending people to our house from kingdom hall, etc.
I received a very long letter from my MIL last year (after a falling out) and she indicated why she will NOT celebrate our children's birthdays, etc., followed by a bunch of JW jargon. I really don't want a terrible relationship with my in-laws, but I am finding myself in that very place after standing up to them for hitting our oldest (then just 3). They caused marital problems for us again last year when I refused to stay in their home on vacation (staying in a hotel wasn't good enough, so I wouldn't go). My husband just can't stand up to either of his parents. They used to live in the same state as us, were lucky if we saw them twice a year, and then they moved south (their choice). MY FIL has come to our home a few times since and either doesn't speak to me or causes a problem while he's here, which leads to more marital fights. He has openly argued with me in front of my husband and husband says nothing to his father. Before our falling out, they never made special trips to see our kids, nor do they ever call to talk to them. I also get accused of being "violent" to FIL in front of the kids. This, coming from someone who hit a 3 year old who wasn't even misbehaving.
I'm not one to lay low and be walked all over, I suppose that is why they have such a problem with me as well.
Our girls are going to have an excellent Christmas, with or without him participating. It just scares me to think how family members are willing to try to destroy our family just to please themselves.
do jehovah's witnesses tend to contact family members no longer associated with the religion, especially around holidays, and try to get them to "come back"?
i'm married (never been a jw) and husband hasn't been a part of that religion since his teens (he's now 39).
i've written here before regarding my in-laws sending people to our house from kingdom hall, etc.
Do Jehovah's witnesses tend to contact family members no longer associated with the religion, especially around holidays, and try to get them to "come back"? I'm married (never been a JW) and husband hasn't been a part of that religion since his teens (he's now 39). I've written here before regarding my in-laws sending people to our house from Kingdom Hall, etc. Anyway, husband has been in a rotten mood all week (prelude to Christmas). He's complained about us listening to Christmas carols on the radio, grumpy, not speaking, then a few days ago said I deserved the "silent treatment" because I said something that angered him. I'm reaching the point of fed up and am certainly not going to walk on eggshells just to keep him in a decent mood. I'm convinced his very JW mother is doing some guilt tripping via texting/calling or something to that effect. He's done nothing for the holidays this year - bought no presents, didn't ask what I got our kids, nothing. Same for my recent birthday. Our oldest, 6, is picking up on his behavior as well, including his lack of interest in doing anything fun with our family. I know he could be depressed, but what do you do when you aren't the one who is trying to guilt trip him? He claims I am the problem, because I don't 'like' his family. I have no problem with him having contact with his family; however, I do believe they are trying to lure him into coming back to please his mother. That leaves me and 2 children to fend for ourselves? I am just disgusted with how their minds operate!
