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That is so true - and hard to give up. Also the influence many bible-quotes had on my giving-up selfconfidence, even though i know now they have been interpreted in the wrong way.
Now that you know some of their errors you can claim those that work FOR you instead of against you
You are suggested to find out the reason for it. I converted as an adult and MUST come to know why. Otherwise i am frightened this could happen again with another group. For me it is very important at the moment - as i just started to fade - to proof the "truth" to be not "truth" (sorry for the buzz-words) so i won't look back.
I know that feeling like I was wanted, like I belonged somewhere was crucial for me. I got that when I went to meetings in the beginning. I think we need to look at what it gave us a special good feeling in the very beginning. What was the "hook" for you?
I also know that belonging was important to me because I had been abandonded so many times as a child when my mother left or when she sent me to foster care. I spent many years growing up away from my family. It left a hole that the JWs filled.
I also know I desperately needed my mother to accept me and if becoming a JW got her acceptance I was willing to do it.
So take a look at what you didn't get growing up or what was missing. Was that need met when you first were in contact with the JWs. That might be a key to what needs it filled.
For some it wasn't the childhood but rather some recent problems in life - a move across country to a place where you know no one? loss of a job? death of a loved one? What was going on in your life and how did they fill the need?
We are all so unique so there is no real formula. But I know the need I had to belong and to be accepted was still there after I left because after the initial phase of contact with the JWs soon their ability to fulfill needs disappears and you become the one who takes care of their needs - to sell books