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reneeisorymMore drama between my mom and I


Your great-aunt Brittney died Tuesday morning she was found on her kitchen floor dead. Her funeral was this morning.

OMG .. My mother just sent me this email. It was the only aunt I had that wasn't a freaking JW.  I have tried to contact her but her contact info wouldn't work that I had. I tried to ask family for her number but they wouldn't give it to me (or ignored me rather).  I was going to try to contact her so I could have someone to talk to and she freaking died.

And why the hell couldn't they tell me TUESDAY so I could have gone to the funeral or something??!  I get this Friday AFTERNOON so I couldn't go ...

So here's a reply after I asked why she didn't tell me sooner:

I couldn’t take a chance on you showing up and the family would wonder how you found out. They would point to me some has already made the commit if they knew I was e-mailing you they would have a decision to make. So think about it.

So here's my reply:

My Aunt who is NOT a JW died, mother.  You could have had someone call me and tell me .. and it was after all an emergency.  I do have a right to know when my family dies. This is the only person I had in our family who might have talked to me.  I have tried over and over to contact her and I couldn't. Her number was disconnected. I even looked up Greg and tried to call him but they were never home. 
 
Why do you let some men tell you what to do like this?  They are just trying to control you mother.  Why couldn't you ask Dad if he could get an elder to call me or something?  She wasn't even a JW!!!! That's what makes me so mad!!  This in no way was something I didn't have a right to know.
Lord only knows what she'll say to this.
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carlaRe: More drama between my mom and I
Man! that would piss me off enough to take out an ad in the paper or write an editorial about the jw's! Our paper has a spot for memorials, people can write what they wish and post a pic if they have one. just a thought.  Sorry about your Aunt.  Your mom is .... well, I don't have anything nice to say so I won't.
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ex-nj-jwRe: Re: More drama between my mom and I

Sorry about your aunt!!! Typical JDUB BS!

nj

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dedpoetRe: More drama between my mom and I

((((Renee)))))

I am so sorry for the loss of your Aunt. You have every right to be angry about the way the news was kept from you until it was too late for you to attend her funeral, and to be given this a a "reason"

I couldn’t take a chance on you showing up and the family would wonder how you found out.
She should be ashamed of herself, putting the opinion of a book publishing company pretending to be a religion ahead of what should be regarded as a family duty.  In the circumstances, your reply shows a great deal of restraint.
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EnlightenedMindRe: More drama between my mom and I

((((((((((((((((reneeisorym))))))))))))))))))))))

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. 

I don't know why the absurdity of their actions continue to shock me, but it does.  What a horrible and unloving thing to do to a person!

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reneeisorymRe: More drama between my mom and I

Thanks so much -- its great to know someone understands.

I am so mad that I can't be sad about my aunt!!  The only freaking aunt I had that wasn't a JW.

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greendawnRe: More drama between my mom and I
Sorry to hear about your aunt passing away and all the more so since she was the only non JW and accesible family member. This is one of the more disgusting aspects the way they treat their ex JW relatives, in fact with that unloving way they will make sure that they won't go back to them. The less JW relatives one has the better it is.
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WarlockRe: Re: More drama between my mom and I

What a cruel thing to do to you.

I'm sorry.

Warlock 

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reneeisorymRe: More drama between my mom and I
I get closer every day to telling them to just stay away from me and out of my life.  I'm trying to be the better person but that's hard.  36 family members all in the cult....
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avidbiblereaderRe: Re: Re: More drama between my mom and I

Sorry to hear about your aunt and all the other crap that your family is putting you through, real Christian like??

 

abr

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reneeisorymRe: More drama between my mom and I
YOU KNOW RENEE’ MAYBE YOU DID HAVE A RIGHT TO KNOW BUT I TELL YOU SEEING YOU WOULD HAVE KILLED ME THIS WEEK. 

I JUST CAN’T HANDLE THIS AT THIS TIME RENEE’ THERE ARE JUST SO MUCH GOING ON RIGHT NOW , JUST DON’T EVEN GET ON MY BAD SIDE.

And its always about her .... I guess she thinks the world revolves around her.

I'm not even going to reply. Its time I shun her for once.  Its better this way. I'm going to use the "if you can't say something nice, don't say nothing at all." rule.

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LeslieVRe: More drama between my mom and I

I am so sorry for the lose of your Aunt.  It never ceases to amaze me how cruel the JW religion and its members are.  I didn't find out about my grandmother's death either until it was in the paper.  The love they speak of is just a smoke screen for thier power and control over the publishers.  

Leslie

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avidbiblereaderRe: Re: More drama between my mom and I
JUST DON’T EVEN GET ON MY BAD SIDE.

Gee I thought I already was, if this isn't your bad side, what is?  Some real tender affection toward you?  Sorry about my sarcasism, but this conduct makes me sick.

abr 

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ScullyRe: More drama between my mom and I
I couldn’t take a chance on you showing up and the family would wonder how you found out. They would point to me some has already made the commit if they knew I was e-mailing you they would have a decision to make.

So she did this knowingly, thought it through to the point where she timed the information perfectly so that you would not be able to go to your non-JW aunt's funeral.  It's sickening how they do this.  It's even more sickening how they try to justify and make it sound as though it was the right decision.

Your mom is clearly terrified of being caught communicating with you and being disfellowshipped for it.  It doesn't make what she did right.  But it does show that she is conflicted between fear of what JWs can do to her and love for you.

YOU KNOW RENEE’ MAYBE YOU DID HAVE A RIGHT TO KNOW BUT I TELL YOU SEEING YOU WOULD HAVE KILLED ME THIS WEEK. 

I JUST CAN’T HANDLE THIS AT THIS TIME RENEE’ THERE ARE JUST SO MUCH GOING ON RIGHT NOW , JUST DON’T EVEN GET ON MY BAD SIDE.

You're right, this was all about HER.  The funeral is supposed to be about your Aunt and honouring her memory, not about your mom.  I'm wondering if this funeral is going to be a JW Infomercial since the JW family members seem to have commandeered the proceedings.  My guess is that it is, and that you were not informed sooner because they knew you would not allow her memory to be violated in that manner.

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truthsearcherRe: More drama between my mom and I

Renee: That is such a mean spirited thing for your mum to do! I understand why you are mad and sad. That is a natural reaction to being treated this way.

However, remember that she is enslaved to a cult. Pray for strength to live a life of supernatural love and forgiveness, remembering that but for the grace of God, you too would see life through WT eyes. I am just concerned that if you cut off all contact with her, you may miss an opportunity to help her leave the cult, or plant some seeds of doubt when she is having questions...

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dawgRe: Re: More drama between my mom and I
Lord,I don't believe what I'm reading... and I thought my family was bad!   I'm so sorry for the passing of your aunt, and more sorry your family is offically "brain dead" 
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GentlyFeralRe: More drama between my mom and I
Don't let your mom make this about her. Make it all about your beloved aunt. You could leave flowers at her gravesite, if it's easy for you to get to. You could keep fresh flowers by her picture right in your home. You could also make a charitable donation in her name - maybe even on a regular basis - and make sure all your family members know!

GentlyFeral
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love2BworldlyRe: More drama between my mom and I

Very sorry on the loss of your aunt, it sounds like your mom is trying to punish you for leaving the JWs. 

Maybe you could visit her gravesite with flowers and have some closure on your own.

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candidlynutsRe: More drama between my mom and I

this is terrible..

its these kind of  things we face as ex jws that can never be made right and it sucks .

 

(((hugs)))

 

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What-A-CoincidenceRe: More drama between my mom and I
Now that totally sucks. I totally feel for you.
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