Interesting to read one's own old posts.
I'm still miserable, as I've alluded to in other posts.
I've finally crossed the line into adultery, and told my wife about it.
Incredibly, she/we are wondering if we should stay together for the kids.
I hate this religion.
Posts by gcc2k
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22Is recovery possible?
by gcc2k inhi guys.
i haven't posted here in a year or so, perhaps more.
i'm not sure what i want to say, and i'm not sure that i want to put it down, since the more info you give here, the easier it is to be spotted.
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Any Auto Mechanics here?
by sandy inmy nissan sentra (2000) failed the smog test.
the "check engine" light has been on for a few months now.. i just had it checked out this morning and i was told i need to replace the air flow meter sensor.. the estimate was $400 for a rebuilt-part and $600 for a brand new one.. does this sound right?
can somebody explain to me what this part's function is?.
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gcc2k
Yeah, zev knows plenty about faulty MAFs if he's a VW guy :)
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Any Auto Mechanics here?
by sandy inmy nissan sentra (2000) failed the smog test.
the "check engine" light has been on for a few months now.. i just had it checked out this morning and i was told i need to replace the air flow meter sensor.. the estimate was $400 for a rebuilt-part and $600 for a brand new one.. does this sound right?
can somebody explain to me what this part's function is?.
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Oh - if you want to go used, look at www.car-part.com. It searches junkyards. Keep in mind that a used MAF is risky, make sure they give some type of guarantee.
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Any Auto Mechanics here?
by sandy inmy nissan sentra (2000) failed the smog test.
the "check engine" light has been on for a few months now.. i just had it checked out this morning and i was told i need to replace the air flow meter sensor.. the estimate was $400 for a rebuilt-part and $600 for a brand new one.. does this sound right?
can somebody explain to me what this part's function is?.
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Go with autozone. If it doesn't fix the issue, you can return it. You will likely notice more power too.
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Not talking about JW stuff has the opposite effect - regression phase
by truthseeker ini decided to take the advice of some of you here when i wrote about my situation.. i am married, but my wife is a die hard witness.
despite me showing her mountains of evidence and her actually accepting it, she is regressing back into jw think.. this has happened since i stopped mentioning anything anti-jw.. now she thinks that my problems with jw's were just a phase because i am not bringing up the issue anymore.. i really want to leave this religion, but i can't do that without losing her.. many here i know are trapped and some are still serving as elders.
i don't know how you do it, but i guess routine is routine.
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Truthseeker, I have been, and still am in your shoes. It's tough. Therapy may help, maybe not. Remember that she will confide in the elders, not as a tattletale, but seeking advice. They will pounce on anything they see as apostacy and come ask you "the two questions". Whether you can level with her about your feelings is up to you, but it's important to save your marriage. Don't continue doing things for her, do them for yourself. It's only prolonging the pain, IMO.
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Kingdom Hall is still for sale!
by observador ineveryone has a thing for something; i am crazy for kingdom halls being sold.
remember that one in rhode island?
well, after two long years, it is still for sale!
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gcc2k
The assembly hall in Monroe NY, which was built in the middle of a Hasidic community, was sold to that very same group. This is one of my major beefs with the org. Let's build a building with volunteer labor, and charge the congregations interest on the note, though the scriptures say not to. Then, years later, let's sell the building to babylon for a huge profit, and start anew. Waiting on Jah indeed. Not.
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Knocking on Doors on Holidays
by Medic!? indid anyone else's congregation "strongly encourage" this practice?
when i was a worshiping rusell.... jehovah.
i felt sick to my stomach and disgusted that these people had absolutely no consideration for the beliefs or practices of others.
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Of course. Didn't you hear about the one where the brothers got invited in, were handed a drink and something to eat, and some time later asked "so, what side of the family are you from?"
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Is recovery possible?
by gcc2k inhi guys.
i haven't posted here in a year or so, perhaps more.
i'm not sure what i want to say, and i'm not sure that i want to put it down, since the more info you give here, the easier it is to be spotted.
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Just wanted to say thanks for the replies.
We'll see. Part of me wants to sever all ties to the KH and move on with my life, but I know that will make it harder for my wife and other family members.
I flitter in and out of this site because it's easier to ignore these issues than to think about them (well, that and lack of time!). Maybe eventually the WT will get caught with its pants down in large, black and white, undeniable fashion. The UN stuff is pretty damning, but that seems to have blown over these days.
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Wife wants my 12 year old to have her own study. Strategy?
by Check_Your_Premises inawhile back i was smart enough to tell my wife i didn't want anybody instructing the children outside the home.
i tried to make some other changes, such as the kids go to church with me every other weekend.
well my 12 year old has been thoroughly indoctrinated to believe that other churches are satan!
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Here is how I feel about it.
The purpose of study is to lead to baptism. Baptism as a JW means accepting the JW teachings, including the blood issue. To me, that is a legal contract, which a minor cannot sign until the age of 18 (I think, I'm not a lawyer).
So, I don't intend to allow my son to have a study or be baptized until he is 18. At that point, if this is what he chooses, it's up to him.
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Is recovery possible?
by gcc2k inhi guys.
i haven't posted here in a year or so, perhaps more.
i'm not sure what i want to say, and i'm not sure that i want to put it down, since the more info you give here, the easier it is to be spotted.
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I don't believe the WT is God's true organization. I think they have a lot of good people with good hearts and Godly devotion, but they are certainly not qualified to act as God's mouthpiece. No, I don't need an organization to be moral, but I'm finding it increasingly difficult without having some form of godly fear.
This fear is, for me, what keeps me in check. Sure, atheists can be moral as well, but I have always been a God-fearing person, and at the point where I start to wonder whether there is a God or not, I feel like I am in a downwarn spiral.
Thanks for your reply. I've always enjoyed your posts, and you are a good example for me of someone who is "out" (or almost out?) and still able to define a way of worship.
I mentioned therapy - I'm not opposed to it, but I find that therapists will take you in the direction you want to go in. For example, you say "I sometimes think of cheating on my wife" and they say "Well, is that a bad thing? Why?"
The bottom line is that there are things in the past that I would never do. Nowadays, I can do them if I want to. But I know deep down I shouldn't, and I don't want to.
I know this is all very amorphous without getting into specifics, but that's the best I can do. Sorry for the earlier formatting, this site still does not seem to support non-IE browsers.