there were a few things that i hated about being a witness.. i love music and live concerts.
quite often i'd have to play my music privately or hide an album cover for fear it might "stumble" someone.
i hated worrying whether someone was going to somehow get "stumbled.. regarding going to concerts, it seemed that certain artists only came to town on a meeting night and i'd miss the shows.. what did you hate about being a jehovah's witness?.
dido
Plus, someone mentioned that they went to the meetings after work without having had any dinner. That was our case too, but, we had a small child. So, I would take a small break during the meeting to feed my son. I hated the indignant looks I got from this stupid bethelite whenever I did this.
Last thing I heard, he left the dubs. too.
did anybody really have truly good friends when they were deep into the borg or like me was there just really never enough time to cultivate good friendships?
In my case, I NEVER had any "real" friends. It too was all superficial. Disgusting now that I think about it.
A friend is supposed to be there for you unconditionally. How can a JW be unconditional? Impossible. One could never open up to these people; tell them our weaknesses, our desires, our doubts. If we did, you know we'd end up in front of a panel of elders.
I'm super happy I'm out.
this threat might be a bit too dark for some.
have any of you been abused by a sibling?
i'm not talking about the usual jealousy thing.
But only talk about it IF you're ready.
this threat might be a bit too dark for some.
have any of you been abused by a sibling?
i'm not talking about the usual jealousy thing.
Thanks ladies for leaving your comments.
I know that there are a lot of other people out there with similar stories. I would like to hear from men too, as I'm sure some of them have also been abused.
this threat might be a bit too dark for some.
have any of you been abused by a sibling?
i'm not talking about the usual jealousy thing.
As I promise, here's our sad tale.
At a young age, my brother had a strong curiosity with sex and, being the bully that he was (and still is), he would make me do things to him which I detested. I was afraid of him. But most of the time, he was nice and took care of me. My life as a child, on the outside, showed no sign whatsoever of being abused. It was all fun and games. I never told my parents, friends, relatives or brothers in the congregation. No one knew.
After 10 years of being the only two siblings in the family, a little sister comes along.
I grew up, got married, had children. Still no one knew.
At the time my son was less than a year old, my sister was 18. She was a strong young woman; always standing up to our brother who would try to bully her. One day, they had a fight, for something pathetic, yet, she graved a knife and told my brother off while pointing the knife at him. Of course, the bully backed off. But she did something else. She called a meeting with our parents and told them that our brother had raped her when he was 17 and she was 5. My parents could not believe it. They refused to believe it. But when I was told about it, I knew, it had to be true. And I wanted to kill him.
My parents never did anything about it. They requested that no one in the family should find out. Not even in the congregation. My father had since passed away. My mother still ownes a house with her prescious son.
My sister and I, are totally alone. When family gatherings come along, we're invited, but since we know that the a-hole will be there, we decline. My mother though expects my sister and I to sit at the same table with him. Like nothing had ever happened.
Ultimately I did tell my husband what had happened between my brother and I. My husband hates him to death. My sister's husband, (she got married and has children of her own), hates him to death too.
My mother? She's a die hard JW....how ironic? Isn't she suppossed to shun her son? My sister and I are no longer JWs, and WE shun him, big time.
this threat might be a bit too dark for some.
have any of you been abused by a sibling?
i'm not talking about the usual jealousy thing.
Ladies, I understand. This is extremely painful, specially when parents do not react the way we expect them to.
Later I will expand a little on my case. Right now I'm at work.
this threat might be a bit too dark for some.
have any of you been abused by a sibling?
i'm not talking about the usual jealousy thing.
What did you do to him?
this threat might be a bit too dark for some.
have any of you been abused by a sibling?
i'm not talking about the usual jealousy thing.
This threat might be a bit too dark for some. Have any of you been abused by a sibling? I'm not talking about the usual jealousy thing. I'm talking about real abuse, sexual, physical and emotional. Did you ever inform your parents about this? What did your parents do about it? What kind of relationship do you have with your sibling and your parents today?
this is my post #100!.
thanks a lot for all your support to date!.
have a great day!!.
Caliber,
it has to do with how many posts you have. It is not done chronologically. Otherwise I'd be the mothership.
my husband asked me a questions that kind of stumped me for a moment.
he asked, in genesis, when cain killed abel, and god, as punishment cursed him and drove him from the land, making him a restless wanderer, why did cain say to god that the punishment was too hard; that anyone who found him would kill him?
who was going to kill him?
I really appreciate your comments.
