Julia I felt the same way as you. Not to mention that I am from a particular culture that really really haaaates homosexuals. So between that and the JW indoctrination I was a serious homophobe.
The thing is especially after having a child with a disability I realized something, my child is born this way. The way he acts and the things that he does are do to his condition. Some people who do not have to deal with it may look at it and think negative things about him, the thing is in his world it is normal. I can't expect him to be something that he is not. With homosexuals I use to think:
1. It is a choice
2. They are doing it for attention
3. THey know it is wrong
Take the time to speak to someone who is gay and you will quickly realize that USUALLY none of those things are true. They are just normal people trying to carry on with life in the way that FEELS NORMAL TO THEM. They require love and affection just like every other human - the difference is that what they find attractive is different from what the MAJORITY find attractive. Once you realize that they are normal people just trying to make it like you and that they have the same problems and cares that you do things tend to make more sense. When you see the hurt they have to go through just to be who they are you have a whol new respect.
Just imagine if everyone in society forced you to have sex with women so you could appear normal... that is the same feeling they have daily. Why not take the time to go to a very somewhere with someone who is a homosexual and just talk to them. Seeing that human side of another person really helps