Sosoconfused, I feel for you. I could imagine my mother, far less eloquently, writing such a letter. Its heart-wrenching to read her letter, moreso because of how mislead she is and doesn't even realize it. You must feel so powerless to reach your parents, I know I do. The only way I can cope is to build an emotional barrier that I don't let them through, whether good or bad, its the same. I realize their love and acceptance is 100% conditional. I have two brothers, one is an ex-con inactive witness, the other has severe emotional trauma and can't function on his own, he is dependent on my parents and he's df'd too. I'm financially independent and successful with two wonderful kids and a wife of 22 years (this June 26), and yet I'm the unacceptable shunned one who disappoints them and that they want nothing to do with. So I feel your pain and know how you must feel. But to know that you are standing on your own two feet as a complete family unit, making your way successful and making your own decisions and future, is so gratifying and purposeful that you won't trade it for emotional bondage. Stay strong and committed. Make your wife and kids and true friends your world and life will be as rewarding as ever. You will feel nothing but pity for those who refuse to love you and know you. Much love and support
Jeremiah